Bachelorette Party?

alyssemillerwedding

Can a double bachelorette party work?

mandi195

Are you planning your own party? That's a big etiquette no-no. If someone offers to throw you one, then have fun and enjoy whatever was planned. It would be nice if whoever is planning either asks what you'd like to do, or tries to plan something they know you would enjoy; however, if they choose Vegas, your options are to go and have a blast or politely decline.

beardo1111

I have sort of a similar situation....I'm getting married next September and my sister is getting married in June and we're each other's MOHs.  We were thinking of doing a joint bachelorette weekend in Vegas where we would each have one night that was "our night."  It's not set in stone yet but I think it's a nice idea.  Could you do somethng similar and break down the weekend where you each have "your day" or "your night" so you can tailor something a little more to each of your tastes?

It's great to be sensitive to your friends' budgets - I will tell you that unless you're going on a peak weekend Vegas can actually be cheaper than you think.  Hotels are cheap, lots of promoters will comp entry fees to clubs and even do free drinks for groups of ladies, and you can definitely eat cheap.  It can also be very expensive if you have expensive tastes but it is possible to keep it cheap.

Ultimately I think it could work but it's really up to you and the other bride and only you can decide if it's something that would really make you happy.  Do you think you could run it by any of your mutual friens to get their input? Good luck!

beardo1111

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_double-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c32a8437-d7a7-4094-855c-503f7df26027Post:09e32e46-e5b0-431b-a247-a1ee50506a37">Re: Double Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]I'd rather go to Vegas. I hate hiking/camping/biking. Vegas also doesn't have to be expensive to be fun. Agree with PPs though. Don't host your own b party. <strong>I also don't know why it needs to consume a whole weekend. Why can't you do something local?</strong>
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

I think just because their mutual friends would be travelling from the other coast....so probably wouldn't travel for just one night if they did something local.  That was my understanding anyways.

arendiva

If your friends are flying from the west coast to your wedding on the east coast they will probably be staying for a few days (I would think) you could have your hiking bachelerette party a day or two before your wedding. That way your guests would only have to fly once and you could have the party you want. I agree with PP's though that you really shouldn't be planning this for yourself.

LDubHawksFan

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_double-bachelorette-party?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c32a8437-d7a7-4094-855c-503f7df26027Post:9994f891-7a7c-4457-b169-168e5dc9aa09">Re: Double Bachelorette Party?</a>:
[QUOTE]If your friends are flying from the west coast to your wedding on the east coast they will probably be staying for a few days (I would think) you could have your hiking bachelerette party a day or two before your wedding. That way your guests would only have to fly once and you could have the party you want. I agree with PP's though that you really shouldn't be planning this for yourself.
Posted by arendiva[/QUOTE]

It might not be those people's cup of tea.  I'm guessing they wouldn't do a really strenuous hike where they would be sore for the wedding.  Even when I have to fly to be in a wedding, I usually don't have the time off to come much before Thurs night.

OP, if you really want to do Vegas to accomodate those West coast people, then I like the idea of one bride getting Friday night & the other gets Sat night.  Otherwise, just have (assuming someone else is planning this) something local and just know that maybe those girls won't be able to come.

beardo1111

My sister and I would each be inviting our own bridal parties - my sister may have met two of my college friends once or twice but I've never met any of her friends (we live on opposite sides of the country).  I think it's fine to have people there who don't know each other - generally in situations like bachelorettes in Vegas I think it's generally the more the merrier unless you have some really strong personalities that you're worried may clash.  People would probably stick with the people they know more, but as long as everyone there knows someone other than you I wouldn't think it would be a problem.

That said, if you're concerned about the budgets of your local friends, etc, maybe it would be better to do something closer to home for them.  It may be fun to have multiple celebrations though I think you do risk "watering down" the bachelorette party experience a bit if your focus is too spread out.

Either way - make sure you and the other bride are on the same page so one of you doesn't end up there with tons of your own friends while the other bride really only knows the mutual friends.  Just so it continues to feel like a joint bachelorette party with roughly equal focus on both of you.

ladycirce

Just in case you do the Vegas thing...there is FABULOUS - AWESOME hiking near Vegas - check out:

Red Rock Canyon - approx 35 minutes from the strip
http://redrockcanyonlv.org/index.html

Mount Charleston - approximately 60 minutes from the strip
http://www.virtualtourist.com/travel/North_America/United_States_of_America/Nevada/Las_Vegas-836630/Off_the_Beaten_Path-Las_Vegas-Mount_Charleston-BR-1.html

Valley of Fire -approximately 90 minutes from the strip
http://parks.nv.gov/parks/valley-of-fire-state-park/

I have hiked in all three parks - unbelieveable!  All different levels of difficulty and distances and even for non-hikers - just a beautiful environment!

Have a great time!