how do i thank someone for this?

daniellabelle

help! we had an engagement party last weekend where [we made very clear] gifts weren't necessary, but some people chose to bring them. my cousin, who is my age and just had a baby in august, decided to give us some baby clothes. i'm trying to let it go as a joke, but it offended both me and my fiance.

i'm not pregnant, we're not getting married to have kids right away, and i have made it very clear to her and all of her family that we are waiting for at least a few more years befor ehaving kids, despite their pushing that we pop a few out ASAP. these were also clearly regifted items with the tags removed - i probably wouldn't be this offended if it was something that may have truly reminded her of us.

so, do i write a thank you? what do i say? or do i call her out on giving an inappropriate gift?

annakb8

Just write her a thank you note. I might throw in something like "these might come in handy in about 5 or 10 years, good job thinking ahead!" or something like that, but don't chastise her or directly call her out.

SarahPLiz

anna is wise.

ElisabethJoanne

Dear cousin-

Thank you very much for your unique gift at our engagement party. It will keep us thinking of you for years to come.

With love,

Matty143

I agree with Anna. Write her a note with a little comment and try not to be upset about it.
I got a book for Christmas called "Raising your organic baby". I am not pregnant. Not even trying. 
I just laughed and said "Am I pregnant!? Cause I drank a few mimosas this morning".

Cortney1982

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[QUOTE]Just write her a thank you note. I might throw in something like<strong> "these might come in handy in about 5 or 10 years</strong>, good job thinking ahead!" or something like that, but don't chastise her or directly call her out.
Posted by annakb8[/QUOTE]

Haha, this!  It's not being rude, but saying without saying that the gift was ridiculous.

tenofcups4me

That is a crazy gift. I don't know if I'd really do this or not, but I'd be tempted to call her and let her know that you appreciate the thought so much, but your gift must have gotten mixed up with someone else's since it was all sorts of baby things and of course you know she couldn't have intended to give that to you...

Or if we were close, maybe I'd just call and ask her WTF? What am I supposed to do with baby clothes?

I honestly can't imagine how I'd respond since I honestly can't imagine anyone doing that. I'd probably just tell my immediate family what a crazy gift it was. And I really don't think I'd write a thank you note for that.

rebarobert2012

I would be upset and offended, too, but I don't think that you should call her out on it.  (Even though she probably deserves it.)  I would just try to be gracious and I would write her a thank you note.  Then, you can always donate the baby clothes to the Goodwill.  I doubt that she actually expects you to keep the clothes.

cindyn9178

I'd personally call the girl and flat out ask her if she purposely meant to give you kid's clothing, because you aren't pregnant and don't plan on having kids any time soon. Put her on the spot and see what she says. I wouldn't turn it into a joke or try to act nonchalant about it, because it clearly offended you, so it really isn't funny.