Questions about Renewal Ceremony

jmyers0410

** Background** My husband and I married Young and due to him Just returning from Iraq we didnt have time to plan for the big wedding ceremony and reception before the next deployment to Afghan...
Due to Our religion we decided to do our Renewal wedding on our 8TH anniversary. (Meaning NEW BEGINNING)
 

Now do we have to do any paperwork or is there anything special that the officiant needs to do to "ReMarry" Us?

Avion22

You will have to ask your officiant if there are any requirements for a religious vow renewal ceremony.   As far as civil requirements, there are none -- you are already legally married, so there is no paperwork to fill out.  

Loopyseven

What Avion said... and how young are you?  Why do you have random words in your post capitalized?

smartlypretty

I know at least in New Jersey (where I am marrying), that you can get a re-marriage recorded. You fill out the application like you would the first time you got married, but you select "remarriage" instead of "marriage". You'd have to pay the fee again (it's 28 dollars in NJ but I know it's significantly more in some states). You obviously don't have to do this if you don't want to since you are already married.

Julie2013

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[QUOTE]** Background** My husband and I married Young and due to him Just returning from Iraq we didnt have time to plan for the big wedding ceremony and reception before the next deployment to Afghan... Due to Our religion we decided to do our Renewal wedding on our 8TH anniversary. (Meaning NEW BEGINNING)   Now do we have to do any paperwork or is there anything special that the officiant needs to do to "ReMarry" Us?
Posted by jmyers0410[/QUOTE]

First of all, congrats on 8 years of marriage! I'm a big fan of vow renewals and would love to put in my 2 cents worth, but I'm not understanding your post. What religion are you that requires you to do a vow renewal on your 8th anniversary? Maybe I'm completely misunderstanding ...

Two things I do know for sure, though. One is that if your marriage is recognized legally already, there isn't anything you must do officially for a vow renewal. You get to cross that problem right off your list!

The second is that a vow renewal isn't a time machine. My situation was one where we reluctantly eloped. We knew we had the choice between two really bad situations -- a wedding that would be a nightmare due to a certain relative or eloping even though we wanted a wedding & reception with our family and friends. We chose to elope. We don't regret that decision, but we will always be upset that we couldn't have the wedding we wanted. Fast forward to now, 14 years later, and we are planning a 15 yr vow renewal & anniversary party for next June. We are not trying to turn this into the wedding we didn't get to have and don't expect it to make up for our upset at not getting the wedding we wanted 14 years ago. We can't go back to celebrate our first hours of married life with family and friends no matter what we do for our vow renewal. More than likely, there will be wedding-ish elements to our renewal, but we are still deciding on what we prefer.

Julie

tommom1

My son is planning to surprise his wife of 20 years with a renewal ceremony and dinner dance reception. They eloped very young and she has wanted to do a renewal for some time. He will tell her about it once most of the plans are set so she will have time to select a dress and have input on the reception decor.

The venue is a large lakeside hall with a stage. What would be the best order of events? We tentatively have thought that they greet guests as they arrive, then have ceremony, then invite guests to dine, have a couple of toasts and then the dancing.

Mom of the "Groom", his co-conspirator