Is it just me or is this unprofessional

cmmosley81

So I had 2 Dj's that I was looking into. I have decided after talking to a few people who I want. Well then I saw on one of thiers FB last night and he said posted about what he had coming up and called someone wedding ghetto. I think that this is totally unprofessional. I mean I dont care what he wants to think about someones wedding but to say it is ghetto on FB if it were my wedding and I saw that and said hey thats mine I would be so heated. Am I wrong for wanting to tell the brides I know are using him to beware?

bellebride116

Personally, I think it's unprofessional for a professional to friend a client on Facebook in general. I think if it's a business page and he/she posts on, fine. 

But as far as being personal friends? I suppose if you have that sort of relationship that's fine, but if it's just a client/vendor relationship I'm not sure why anyone would be friends with someone like that on FB. 

I'm not saying from your perspective, but from your DJ's. I'm a business owner and have some clients friend me and I have to respectfully decline and explain to them that I just don't accept friend requests from people I don't know on a personal, nonprofessional level. As soon as you friend someone via a personal page they start seeing personal things that totally crosses the line of being professional. 

It baffles me why any professional would friend their clients and let them see their personal page. Maybe others don't have this case, but it's not the clients business to see my personal vacation pictures, family posts, me going out drinking with friends, etc. 

Maybe your DJ is friends with that bride and meant it as a joke? It's hard to tell... I suppose as long as he does a good job there's no need to tell other brides to beware just yet. 

mgietler76

I think it's unprofessional for a vendor to make such comments on a public FB page that I assume he uses for work? I know my photographer has a FB page that is completely public, as in I didn't need to friend her to see the page. If that's the case than yes it's unprofessional, if you friended his private page than all I can say is he shouldn't have accepted. Are these brides you wish to tell good friends of yours? If your deciding not to go with him because of his comment than I can sorta see you telling them, but if he's a good DJ I wouldn't go around slamming him for a simple mistake.

cmmosley81

Well he only has one FB page and adds from what I see anyone who requests him from friends to clients.. I did ask him what he meant and he said something along the lines of the music they want him to play as a prelude.

[Deleted User]

I think it is pretty unprofessional and childish to post something like that on FB. I personally don't have one (yes, I know, go ahead and flame me) for this reason as well as others. My husband works in the corporate world and he is very, very careful about what he posts on there. Basically he only has a few friends that are truly family members and friends, nothing else. My sister on the other hand, is friends with everyone she has remotely spoke to or encountered in her life.

mgietler76

Yeah I'm with MissySue, you need to be really careful these day about who you add and what you post. When I first got on FB I was friended by literally everyone I had ever known, I went though my list about a month ago and deleted everyone who I don't actually speak to IRL. Why not just remove him from your friend list and don't concern yourself with it? You can't get mad if you can't see what he's posting.

smore154

I do think this is unprofessional. I'm not sure I would spread the word. If his work product is still great, and he does a good job at weddings- it's just really the principle of the thing as to why people may not want to hire him. Also, who knows the context of it. I'm not even sure if you told me this that I wouldn't hire him just based on this comment.

mkrupar

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-this-unprofessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c5797324-b56c-4eaa-b36b-6d61b8162930Post:e5fe6f8a-aecd-422b-8114-10a138387a72">Re: Is it just me or is this unprofessional</a>:
[QUOTE]I think it is pretty unprofessional and childish to post something like that on FB.<strong> I personally don't have one (yes, I know, go ahead and flame me) </strong>for this reason as well as others. My husband works in the corporate world and he is very, very careful about what he posts on there. Basically he only has a few friends that are truly family members and friends, nothing else. My sister on the other hand, is friends with everyone she has remotely spoke to or encountered in her life.
Posted by MissySue20[/QUOTE]

I won't flame you, FI doesn't have one either. He's never understood the appeal.

Mrs.B6302007

What he did is unprofessional, yes but that doesn't necessarily mean he won't do his job well.  You shouldn't badmouth him to any brides unless he doesn't fulfill his contract obligations at your reception.

Mrs.B6302007

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_just-this-unprofessional?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c5797324-b56c-4eaa-b36b-6d61b8162930Post:7c3bcfe1-8bdb-43cd-a47d-eea3852edd67">Re: Is it just me or is this unprofessional</a>:
[QUOTE]Well he only has one FB page and adds from what I see anyone who requests him from friends to clients.. I did ask him what he meant and he said something along the lines of the music they want him to play as a prelude.
Posted by cmmosley81[/QUOTE]

You need to be careful with comments like this.  If he gets the vibe that you're correcting him or "mothering" him, he might drop you like a hot potato.

cmmosley81

Sorry for the confusion. He actually isnt the DJ I chose.  I went to school with him and that is why I am FB friends with him. But know that he does work alot and have seen his name on here before as well. Also I know alot of his brides are on his FB

mgietler76

Well that's a horse of a different color. He is a friend already, how do you know he accepts friend requests from potential brides? I would ignore this completely, if he is competent and does his job well that's all that matters.