She is really having a hard time right now. Grandma is literally dying in her basement suite. No help from her only sibling. She losing her house of 32 years to an a-hole ex-husband. She basically has had no life for the last 10 years because she had to take care of her mom.
Poor lady has hit bottom. She just spent 30 minutes crying to me, her DIL she only sees once a year (although not this year for me). I really wish I could hop on a plane and hug her. I'm so glad DH is going up on Friday. I think she really needs him right now.
She even asked for us to have a baby so she would have something to look forward to. (fyi - We have been trying for years, just no success.)
sorry for the ramble. Flame me if you want, I just wish grandma would go in peace sooner than later so MIL can move on with her life.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.