I dont like being judged for...

Nebb

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Instead of judging, what are some things you dont like being judged for (and you know when people are doing it)?

I dont like being judged for not liking to get my photo taken. I also dont like being judged for being fat, because no one has any idea what my fitness level is or what I eat!

JK10910

I don't like being judged for not wanting kids.

I don't like being judged for not having a job.

ricksang

For being bisexual and an Atheist.

SarahPLiz

I don't like being judged for being fat either. I participate in enduarnce sports and go to boot camp at least 4 times a week and it sucks to still be fat.

Brie2010

My job.

People assume that I'm extremely unhappy with my current job because I have a law degree and I "should" be a lawyer.  I keep getting unsolicited job advice/attorney job postings from random peoplle, when I actually love my job and don't plan to leave the field, even though it was a totally random find out of necessity in the beginning.

laurenclaire1386

Getting married. I went and had a couple of drinks at the bar where my MOH works last week and I happened to get into a conversation with a guy who basically told me that my marriage is going to be a failure and that no one should get married. Well no fucking wonder you're not married any more, asshat, you didn't ever want to be. Just because your marriage worked out about as well as a nuclear explosion doesn't mean mine won't work. Diickbag.

jasmineh7777

I don't like being judged for the fact that I don't want kids.
I don't like being judged when I choose not to have a drink. I may be young, but I won't be partying on a Wednesday night. Just because you are young and don't support yourself doesn't change the fact that I work at 7:30 a.m.

JK10910

Also, for FI's job and me wanting to still work.  People just assume he makes a ton of money (it's not like he's a medical doctor or something like that...jeez) and that I'll be a stay at home mom.  Then when they (rudely) comment to that effect, and I say that's not what I want at all, I always get the "OMG WHYYYYYY?!?!  I'd totally stay at home and be lazy ALLLLLL DAY!!!!  It would be great and you're CRAZY!!!1!!!"  Yeah, ok.  Thanks.

alixzafiris

This is going to come out wrong, and for that I apologise. I'm trying to be dead honest here and I don't mean this in a vain way at all.

I hate being judged because of what I look like. It happens to me all the time and while I generally throw up the "bitch front" when it happens, it does make me a sad banana inside because I think I'm pretty neat and chicks just do. not. like. me without ever talking to me. It's literally a daily occurrance and whoever I'm with at the time is usually the one to point it out to me when it happens. This is even the case with my closest girlfriends, they openly admit to not liking me at first based on my looks and it took months for us to become friendly and now we're super close.

It just makes me upset sometimes, judge me for my decisions and opinions? Fine. Judge me for my actions or words? Have at it. Don't judge me for material things that have little to do with who I actually am, without taking a chance to actually get to know me.

Oh, and I also hate being judged for liking young adult books. People assume that because I read them, I've got the intelligence level of a gnat and it drives me mental. They're not all I read. They're not even my favourite things to read. And I'm dead sure the majority of people who scoff at me for it have neither read for themselves those things that they look down at, or; in some cases, probably don't read more than magazines at all.

Nebb

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[QUOTE] "OMG WHYYYYYY?!?!  I'd totally stay at home and be lazy ALLLLLL DAY!!!!  It would be great and you're CRAZY!!!1!!!"  Yeah, ok.  Thanks.
Posted by JK10910[/QUOTE]
Totally not all its cracked up to be. Being lazy all day, permenently just feels like shiit.

ggmae

I don't like being judged for wanting to be a SAHM in the future.

I don't like being judged for not working out.

I don't like being judged for driving cautiously. ;-)

jasmineh7777

Oh Ricks just reminded me of one more.
I don't like being judged for being Catholic. People assume that if you are Catholic then you are uber conservative. Actually, I am very liberal and I love my birth control.

vallyhoo

I don't like being judged for the breed of dogs that we have.

goheels05

I don't like being judged for being 26 and having braces.  Your parents loved you enough to pay for your dental care, good for you.  Not everyone is so lucky.

I don't like being judged for being Protestant.  Not all of us are crazy, out of touch, judgy, misguided, and trying to convert everyone. 

I don't like being judged by my husband for the things I say and do on facebook.  Almost nothing I do on FB is judge-worthy, and the things that might be slightly judge-worthy to some are hidden as appropriate using the privacy settings, which you know nothing about since you hate the internet, social networking, and people who have a sense of humor.

Nebb

I dont like being judged for making changes in my life that people dont understand - local eating, growing my own food, exercising. Just because "you" dont get it, doesnt mean its pointless or its a waste of time (I have been told this).

jessjo04

Being a conservative republican. Being very religious. Being a woman in a man's field of work (but getting out soon, hopefully!).

AlexiaANDRobert

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[QUOTE]II don't like being judged when I choose not to have a drink. I may be young, but I won't be partying on a Wednesday night. Just because you are young and don't support yourself doesn't change the fact that I work at 7:30 a.m.
Posted by jasmineh7777[/QUOTE]

This one!  My sister is 21 and doesn't get up until noon... she calles me LAME <strong><u>every time</u></strong> I don't accept an invitiation downtown.  No to mention, I'd rather eat my calories at this point in my life than deal with a hangover while working in construction.

I don't like being judged for being a female in a male dominated industry.  Most of the guys that work for us know me and know I'm not an idiot, but the new ones really piss me off when they treat me like a secretary.

JessAndTrav

Alix, that's a legit judgment that I bet you deal with often, and I don't think it's vain that you recognize that. You're an incredibly beautiful woman, and I think it happens a lot.

I don't like being judged for my beliefs. I'm a Christian, and I love my faith. A recent judgment that has been cast upon me by my BIL is that I have a friend who is transgendered. Knowing that I'm a Chrstian and friends with a person who is GLBorT seems to make BIL uncomfortable and disapproving.

Um, hello? Jesus loved everyone. Christians are to be like Jesus, right?

I hate be judged at work because I'm a substitute. The other teachers are rude and ignore me. I was heating up something in the lounge for like, 4 or so minutes in the microwave and not one person spoke to me. I just stood there for 4 awkward and long minutes.

I'm sorry that I'm just a sub. But I'm the person who makes it possible for you to be able to go run your errands on a week day during your work hours. I'm also the sub that actually teaches and follows the instructions that you've left. I'm not the sub that lets the kids do whatever they want.

rhodesign

1. being black (and it does happen in many ways, good and bad)
2. being in an interracial relationship--our future kids are not automatically doomed
3. being both liberal and a believer. I don't think any of us *really* know wwjd
4. burlesque dancing. I find absolutely nothing wrong with being on stage and undressing for entertainment. even though I have nothing to do with poles or lap dances, I don't judge those who do, either.

alixzafiris

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[QUOTE]I don't like being judged for the breed of dogs that we have.
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

Well now I'm intrigued. Unless it's like... a tiger masquerading as a poodle, why would you be judged? What are they?

I'll also hop in the I don't like being judged for my lack of belief in organized religion. Especially by friends. I don't preach to you, do me the same courtesy.

I also don't like being judged for being South African. People (misinformed idiots mostly) automatically seem to assume that because I'm white and South African I'm a) rich b) an advocate <em>for </em>slavery and c) racist. It makes me stabby. Like really... WTF?

ggmae

I don't like being judged for owning a gun (or 2 in our case.)

FutureMrsTR

I don't like being judged for not drinking.  I'm not opposed to it morally and I don't care if you do it.  It usually just makes me sick really quickly and I'm completely capable of having fun without it so yes, I'm having a good time even though the Coke in my hand is sans Jack Daniels.

I don't like being judged for loving to read.  My friend's brother gave me crap all NYE weekend for reading while they would be watching TV or something.

I don't like being judged for wanting to be a SAHW or SAHM at least until my kids go to school.  I would love to be able to use my time to volunteer or go back to school to do something really worthwhile.

ricksang

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[QUOTE]1. being black (and it does happen in many ways, good and bad) 2. being in an interracial relationship--our future kids are not automatically doomed 3. being both liberal and a believer. I don't think any of us *really* know wwjd 4.<strong> burlesque dancing. I find absolutely nothing wrong with being on stage and undressing for entertainment. even though I have nothing to do with polls or lap dances, I don't judge those who do, either.
</strong>Posted by rhodesign[/QUOTE]
I'd pay to see that show ;P

ricksang

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[QUOTE]I don't like being judged for owning a gun (or 2 in our case.)
Posted by ggmae[/QUOTE]

Agreed!

shellydiane820

I don't like being judged for being a homebody.

Its not that I'm lazy, I workout a lot, I run errands, but I don't like going out all the time.  My sister and our friend always nag me to go downtown with them and I don't like to.  I work really hard during the week with school and work and on the weekends I want to veg out.  That's how I unwind.

I'm not saying I don't like to party, sometimes I do like going downtown and getting sloshed.  Not too often though.  I don't want that bloat that a lot of girls downtown have.

JessAndTrav

I don't like being judged for the amount of money that DH and I spend on our rent. Yes, it's a lot. Yes, it's money that we could put to mortgage.

But we're not ready to own a home yet.

We do spend a good amount of money on our rent every month, and we knew going into it that we'd have to cut corners to make it work.

But we love where we live and I feel safe here. My last apartment I didn't feel safe in. And growing up I didn't feel safe in our neighborhood.

Having a home that I can take pride in is really important to me, and my safety is even more important to me. Don't judge the way the DH and I spend our  money. We're not asking anyone to pay for us!

aMrsin09

I hate being judged for:
not working
being a Republican
Being shy at first (Alix, most of friends thought I was a stuck up, snooty B!tch when they first me.  Nope, just shy)
being American.  I hear almost daily "oh your much nicer than we thought an American would be..."

klovesd

...for being 22 and married

klovesd

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[QUOTE]Being a conservative republican. Being very religious. Being a woman in a man's field of work (but getting out soon, hopefully!).
Posted by jessjo04[/QUOTE]

<div>ditto the conservative, religious part</div>

jasmineh7777

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[QUOTE] 3. being both liberal and a believer. I don't think any of us *really* know wwjd
Posted by rhodesign[/QUOTE]
Well from what I hear, he was turning water into wine <em>all</em> the time. I would say that suggests he was pretty laid back, and he liked to have a good time.

ggmae

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[QUOTE]I don't like being judged for being a homebody. Its not that I'm lazy, I workout a lot, I run errands, but I don't like going out all the time.  My sister and our friend always nag me to go downtown with them and I don't like to.  I work really hard during the week with school and work and on the weekends I want to veg out.  That's how I unwind. I'm not saying I don't like to party, sometimes I do like going downtown and getting sloshed.  Not too often though.  I don't want that bloat that a lot of girls downtown have.
Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

I get judged for being a homebody too (my friends go out a lot.) I like going out maybe once a month with them, but they don't ask me much anymore. I enjoy vegging as well too!