I just recently got engaged to my fiance after dating for 3 years. During this time, my family has acted like he was just a temporary thing and didn't even bother to use his name until about 6 months ago!
I have twin younger sisters, one of which has never dated. She cuts off friends who do date and gets very upset when you even mention your significant other. So suffice it to say, she has been incredibly unsupportive about us and rude to my fiance.
Her twin has been away at college, so it's not her fault she doesn't really know my fiance or much about the relationship. But again, she never went out of the way to try either. She is much more experienced than her twin but still turns into a mirror image of the younger twin when they are together.
So when I got engaged I didn't even consider making them bridesmaids due to how it had been the last 3 years. Suffice it to say, my mother is furious. Made me feel so guilty I started crying when I got off the phone. My parents are not paying for any of the wedding; they see using excess funds for one day as a waste. I do get it, they spent less than 500 dollars total for theirs (Mom was 3 months pregnant with me) but I am NOT pregnant and I am getting married cause I WANT to, not cause etiquette said I have to. I think if I'm paying for the entire wedding then she shouldn't get to make me feel horrible for my choices! Am I entirely wrong in thinking that?