Late Thank-You Notes

Nickie431

DH and I were married seven months ago, and between us we've experienced four personal hospitalizations and one death in the family since then.  I feel terrible that all the upheaval interfered with my finishing my wedding thank-you notes promptly.  Now that I'm in a health position to get the last bunch written, I'm not sure how to address my tardiness.  Most of the people would not be aware of what our situation has been.  Do I just sincerely apologize?  Or should I make brief mention of the cause (ie. "due to personal illness")?  Or do I not add anything related to the time frame and just write the notes as normal?  Thank you!

hoffse

I would just do it as normal.  Presumably most of your guests know about these events in your life anyway, and for those  that don't, well, getting late thank yous seems to be happening more and more often these days.

jessicabessica

You said most people don't know about the illnesses, do you really want to tell them this way or even at all?  

If you want to tell them, I would say something like, "Thank you for the blender.  DH and I are looking forward to some awesome smoothies this summer.  It was great to see you at the wedding.  I apologize for not writing sooner, we've had some unexpected twists in our lives, but are now doing better."  I think that will make people call you or ask around about what was up, so if you don't want to tell them, don't mention it and deal with people thinking you are a bit rude (although, I think many people have taken the better late than never approach to TY notes, since so many couples just don't do them or do them belated).