I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?

JessAndTrav

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smokeybailey

Is this like a tasty appetizer?  Because you know that some of us have no idea what you are talking about.

But would like to.  Do tell.

If you don't have something nice to say, come sit next to me.

mags0607

yes, i am very intigued as to the backstory....

JessAndTrav

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JessAndTrav

Yeah, I can tell by the pregnant pause in repsonses that it's really stupid unless you know me or the person involved.

smokeybailey

I love myself some Miss Clairee (although that is a Dorothy Parker line originally).  Anyway, I don't get anything about what you said.  I don't get the argument about elite.  Some people may find college-going peeps to be elite and in turn their social networking site elitist.  What else happened? Did you stab her?  Sleep with her man?  Steal her homework?  Sounds like she is not worth your time.  Well, maybe a little time.  I'd make my status JessandTrav has been blocked by a douchebag/fucktard/lameass/slut-tart/whatever fills the bill.

FWIW-I have my undergrad from Cal Poly, SLO and my MBA from UCLA.  Two state schools and I would put them up against a private school any day.  So you can tell her, Smokey says fuuck you and the elitist high horse you rode in on. 

smokeybailey

I'm here.  I was just trying to digest it.  The lameness of it all was making my brainworks sticky...

Koopa17

Hmph.  This won't be helpful but I don't really see how running to the knot to where she'll probably read it is any more mature or any less passive aggressive? If you're that pissed, call her/email her?

Sorry though, that is annoying.  I hate having to walk on eggshells around some people, you just can't win with them sometimes.

JessAndTrav

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JessAndTrav

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:23e75866-07f4-41b4-b7f6-aad7f5a1dffd">Re: I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]Hmph.  This won't be helpful but I don't really see how running to the knot to where she'll probably read it is any more mature or any less passive aggressive? If you're that pissed, call her/email her? Sorry though, that is annoying.  I hate having to walk on eggshells around some people, you just can't win with them sometimes.
Posted by Koopa17[/QUOTE]

This is an incredibly valid point, and you're right. But to be honest, I don't even care about being grown up with her anymore.

Sometimes, you just quit caring.

Koopa17

Yes, you do.  I hate that point, but sometimes it's just easier to cut ties and quit dealing with their bullshit drama.  I'm not sure I could put up with someone that would defriend me over misusing the word "elite", either, haha. 

thesuninherhead

This post strikes me as highly passive aggressive if you know she'll read here, although I do question why she also reads here... In any case, I would be approaching her directly about this if I were you, rather than letting her read your vent here.

JessAndTrav

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dsouldiva

It sounds like she just doesn't want to be friends anymore, and to be fair, it's not like Adults walk up to each other and say "I really have a problem with you because of x, y and z, I don't want to be your friend anymore" (that's just a little bit too "mean girls/clueless" for real life)

If someone wants to cut you out of their life for whatever reason, I'd just be the bigger person and say say "fine, whatever" and concentrate on friends/family that do want to be in your life.

crfische

Um, no one's online THEN, but people wake up and read this.

This is ridiculously childish. If there's a problem, you confront the problem. If this is the last straw, then you don't give up and resort to the same things she's doing, you talk to her and say that you're sorry she feels that way, but perhaps it's for the best.

Being an adult 101.

danieliza1127

This is weird.  It wouldn't have been weird if you had come on to vent and actually explained the story, but the fact that you clearly posted this hoping she would read it or knowing she might and being all cryptic about what's going on - weird.

AdeleDazeem

"Jesus, it's a college degree. A bachelor's at that. It's not like it's a Ph. D. And if it were a Ph. D. from a state school, I'd still hang onto it with pride."

For the record, Ph.D.s are about research and are usually not about the school it came from, but the lab (or professors, etc) that you are working with...  Many times the state schools are better because professors have more time to focus on top notch research and not be bothered with that whole teaching gig.

Just wanted to correct that misconception

pumpkinpumpkin

WTF is wrong with you lately JessandTrav? You've become a strange, annoying PW.

buddhagouda

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:25ddcafd-7ae9-4bfb-b906-d9f3623b0a1e">Re: I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]WTF is wrong with you lately JessandTrav? You've become a strange, annoying PW.
Posted by pumpkinpumpkin[/QUOTE]

<div>Oh this is not a new development. </div>

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:858b2b95-c247-4306-a7ad-44af6b39add6">Re: I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]FWIW-I have my undergrad from Cal Poly, SLO and my MBA from UCLA.  Two state schools and I would put them up against a private school any day.  So you can tell her, Smokey says fuuck you and the elitist high horse you rode in on. 
Posted by smokeybailey[/QUOTE]

For real. I'm trying to apply to PhD programs (which I'm sure everyone knows) and Berkeley is the NUMBER 2 school in the entire country for my program. After Yale. Before Harvard and Princeton. Which means I could never get in. And UCLA is in the top 10.

And I would argue that when facebook was just for college students it WAS elite because it was for a select group of people. That IS the definition, in a way.

eastunder1

This is all very odd to me.  I dont see how posting this bizzare rant here "where she's probably reading" is any less juvenile and passive agressive than her blocking you on facebook.  

Also, the backpedal.  She was  definately reading this fo sho, but now that you feel a little silly about the whole ordeal, there is only a slight chance she might read it?  Come on now. 

JessAndTrav

Eh, it's whatever. I never denied it being childish. People can say/think what they want. There is a lot of backstory that goes into this that I haven't even begun to touch. If she happens to read this, true. It's very childish. I'm no denial. Was posting this here lame and PWish, sure. But there was nobody up late that I could talk to so I just threw it out there for anyone that was one here.

Anyway, after sleeping and being able to soak it in, I don't even care about the whole incident.

"Also, the backpedal.  She was  definately reading this fo sho"

And FWIW, I really didn't know if she used the boards or not. Then I looked up her username and saw that she's never actually posted.

New day, new drama will pop up here later I'm sure.

notquiteblushing

Why don't you tell the truth, Jess?  I blocked you because you are a lying whore who stole Trav from me.  And you owe me $10, wench!

JessAndTrav

Uhhh....come again?

notquiteblushing

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:c0ba93cd-4431-48f0-a90b-cd5edf60ac09">Re: I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]Uhhh....come again?
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

The $10 is for the wine coolers my older brother bought us for the prom limo.  Don't act like you don't know.

JessAndTrav

Mmmmmhm.

notquiteblushing

Zima doesn't just grow on trees you know. 

hoshiku

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:27b7b469-0d0a-4e46-9d71-5016759bd7aa">Re: I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]"Jesus, it's a college degree. A bachelor's at that. It's not like it's a Ph. D. And if it were a Ph. D. from a state school, I'd still hang onto it with pride." For the record, Ph.D.s are about research and are usually not about the school it came from, but the lab (or professors, etc) that you are working with...  Many times the state schools are better because professors have more time to focus on top notch research and not be bothered with that whole teaching gig. Just wanted to correct that misconception :)
Posted by Joy2611[/QUOTE]
As someone working on a Ph.D. from a state school I can completely veriify this post.  Most of the best genetics departments in the US, including mine, are state schools.  The other two are Harvard and Wash U, go figure.

ThePinkSuperhero

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_im-sorrywhat-did-really-just-happen?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:c6f9781a-000a-4244-8fab-49511feeb523Post:fb08af69-8bc5-4462-8364-9e95e8be09ca">I'm sorry...what? Did that really just happen?</a>:
[QUOTE]So, there's someone I know, who's probably reading this, and that's seriously fine by me. Someone that I have known for literally forever blocked me on FB today. The reason that I believe they did it is so.fucking.stupid. If you're reading, congratulations. You may be smart, but <strong>being passive aggressive is being a coward,</strong> which to me, is worse than being stupid. It's not about being blocked from FB. I truly couldn't care less about that. It's a social networking site. People should seriously learn to swallow their insecurities and get some fucking pride.
Posted by JessAndTrav[/QUOTE]

So why are you posting here where you think she might see it instead of talking to her directly?  Aren't you being just as passive-aggressive by trashing her behind her back instead of manning up and telling her to her face?  Good grief, people and their stupid Facebook drama.