the dreaded kids or no kids how many kids whos kids why their kids

BRITTANY143dsl

OK so what is the proper etiquette with the kids situation? of course we are having a flower girl and ring boy. my FI family has kids but only about 1/4 of how many kids are on my side... if all my cousins and friends(I am not yet an Aunty on my side) kids came that would be at least 25-30 kids ranging in ages 0 to 15...Im all for the kids on my fiances side coming because its minimal but how do I put on the invite about kids? I have one cousin who has 5 kids alone and I know they wont be able to keep an eye on all of them all night...Id prefer only a few kids if they must come I just dont want to be rude or hurt peoples feelings....do people persume that kids arent invited if I dont name them on the invite?? please help!

redheadfsu

I would advise a clear cut-off. Only kids in the wedding party or just your sibling's kids or some clear distinction. Anything else will hurt people's feelings.


Edit: About the invite, only list the names of those invited. If you don't put the kids names on there, then they are not invited. If they add them to the RSVP, then call  & explain that they misread the invite and you hope they still come.

misscyndikalene

This is what I am doing....I am inviting the children and their families that are a part of the wedding ceremony and also the kids of our close cousins no matter what age. BUT to draw the line, we both agreed that all the other children that cannot sit in a seat and eat their own meal  will be asked not to come. We listed "adult reception to follow" in our invites but are going to tell ppl that their older kids are invited by word of mouth if they ask. We are also thinking about having a babysitter at the hotel to watch the babies that are brought just in case ppl have to bring their little ones.

redheadfsu

Do not put "adult only" or anything like that. That is insulting & rude.

ShakeUpTampa

When I sent out emails on FB asking for perm addies and name of signifant other (if I had never met them or not sure if they have one) I got an email back with all three of her kids names. I did not say anything at this time but she is getting an invite for HER. I have NEVER met her children. Her grandmother was my nanny so I grew up with her, but through the years not so close..I have been to every one of their weddings (7+) and yes they had kids running around (family members) Right now my list of children is 5 total, kids I see weekly and have nannied for myself or the two girls who are like my own nieces. I can not keep my sanity with children running around the whole night (their last family wedding the father of the bride smacked a daughter in law and the cops came) it was over one kids snatching anothers DS system. It will be provided and noted that it is a place card seated event. So if someone shows up that was not invited they have no seat, as well with RSVP total is letting us know how many excess chairs to reserve at the ceremony site. 50 are free, the rest are $2ea