hi ladies
I'm new to the board, and I wanna say, thank goodness for this board!
This is the situation I have been struggling with. My FMIL is a lesbian. She has been with her partner for 14 years, and has been more of a "father" figure in my FI's life than his dad. He didn't even meet his real dad until he was 8 years old. My FI wants his moms partner to be one of the groomsman(groomswoman?) and I'm okay with that. My situation is, I don't know how to address them as his "parents" without saying "hi, this is my future mother in law, and she's gay". I want to include them on the invitation, but they aren't paying for anything besides the rehearsal dinner. I know that ettiquite says that I don't need to mention them on the invitation, but I'd like them to feel included. I think that my FMIL's partner would feel left out if I don't mention her on the invitation, but I don't know how to word it so that it's not in everyones face.
Sorry if that's confusing. Anyone have any ideas as to how to address this situation?