Receptions and Invitations

bexy77

My fiance's family and hometown friends are down in TX and LA. We want to include them in our special event, however, his parents, cannot travel due to his father's health. We also don't want to have his extended family and friends to have to have the the expenses of traveling to MN. So we decided to accommodate this group of individuals by having a second informal reception in TX a few months after the wedding. Is this acceptable as far as etiquette? Also do i need to send out separate invitations to his TX/LA family and friends or do I put, "to accommodate beloved family and friends in Texas and Louisiana, we will be having an informal reception... on this day this time at this location (obviously the correct information)" on a separate slip with the invitation? I'm leaning more to the separate invitation is the correct solution, I want to avoid sounding rude to his extended family and friends by not sending invitiations to the main event in MN.

Maggie0829

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[QUOTE]My fiance's family and hometown friends are down in TX and LA. We want to include them in our special event, however, his parents, cannot travel due to his father's health. <strong>We also don't want to have his extended family and friends to have to have the the expenses of traveling</strong> to MN. So we decided to accommodate this group of individuals by having a second informal reception in TX a few months after the wedding. Is this acceptable as far as etiquette? Also do i need to send out separate invitations to his TX/LA family and friends or do I put, "to accommodate beloved family and friends in Texas and Louisiana, we will be having an informal reception... on this day this time at this location (obviously the correct information)" on a separate slip with the invitation? I'm leaning more to the separate invitation is the correct solution, I want to avoid sounding rude to his extended family and friends by not sending invitiations to the main event in MN.
Posted by bexy77[/QUOTE]

It should be left up to the individual to decide whether or not they want to spend the money to travel to your wedding.  You should invite everyone to your wedding that you would like to have attend.

Then if you wish to have a celebration of your marriage (not a reception) in his hometown for those that were unable to make it then that is fine.  But those individuals must also be invited to the wedding.

DramaGeek

Invite everyone to both events.  Let people choose which they will attend.  I know I was surprised at who in my family traveled across the country for our wedding.

jedrzeja

I agree with the two invitations.  You could do a less formal invitation for the less formal event.  Good luck!

Calypso1977

where do your FIL's live?  is it important to your FI to have his parents there?  if so, id consider having the wedding where they live.

pearlaqua

Definitely invite everyone to everything, in the end it might yield the same effect of FI's family only attending the TX/LA event but you'll broker a lot of goodwill by inviting everyone all the same.