Etiquette for Destination Wedding & Gifts

evelyn0908

Hello everyone,

My fiance and I are planning on having a Destination Wedding and we know that alot of the people wont be assisting. We are still going to send out the invitations to everyone with the registry info. But usually when people dont assist weddings they dont send gifts. Would it be wrong to havea  registry for a House Warming party after the wedding and then do another registry for that?

MrsGandthebeag

Ditto what Eddie said.  If you have a wedding shower, the host can put info about the registry in those invites.  If I go to a housewarming party I'd buy a botte of wine, not look for a registry.

JaxInBlue

Agree with PP.  Do not put your registry information in your invitations.  If you have a website, you can discretely communicate your registry information there.  If not, you can tell people where you are registered when they ask (as can members of your family and your bridal party).

I also would not have a second registry for a house warming party (or mention your wedding registry in that invitation either).  If you are throwing your own housewarming, it should not be gift giving event; it should be a more casual "hey come over and visit" get together.  People who want to get you something may consult your wedding registry - DH and I have received registry gifts since the wedding for birthdays and Christmas.

Viczaesar

You are not owed gifts just because you are getting married, and you shouldn't be trying to dream up ways to get presents out of your friends and family. One should never put any gift information in wedding invitation, and that includes registry information. Registry information can be passed by word of mouth (ONLY when asked), can be put on shower invitations, and can be put on your wedding website as long as it's not the first thing site visitors see. You are correct that most people who do not attend a wedding do not give a gift, but of course gifts should not be expected from anyone, whether attending or not, and with the travel expenses of a destination wedding some will likely give you a smaller gift or no gift.

misssunshine17

You're joking, right? You are very preoccupied with your guests buying you gifts. Registry information should never be on the invitation. Ditto PPs. 

And a housewarming party with another registry available? Eww. 

Peledreamsofrain

It is really really really really unclassy to put your registry information on your invites.  It makes it look like you are selling tickets to your wedding like it's a circus show, and gifts are the price of admission.

Make a wedding site and put an insert with it's address in your invites.  On your wedding site you can put your registry information.

Also, housewarming parties are not gift-grabs.  Don't make a registry for it.

freebread03

Guys, maybe she really DOES mean assisting.  OP, do you expect your guests to give you money to help fund your wedding?  Literally, assisting in the funding of your wedding?

Either way, leave any mention of gifts off of any invites.  Also, housewarming parties aren't typically gift giving occasions.  A house plant or a bottle of wine or other small token are the usual (at least in my circle)--I've never been to a house warming that had a gift registry, and if I did, I'd be very taken aback.

musicalcanadianbride

Perhaps she doesn't mean "assist" as in "help". She may be a francophone, and in French you "assist to an event". (i.e. "Vous assistez aux noces des mariés.")