When having a smaller wedding, how do you handle the situation of people who assume they are invited, but in actuality will not make the cut? Our guest list is limited to no more than 80 people as that is the max capacity for our reception site. Of that 80, the majority is family and the rest is a handful of very close friends. So when someone who may not be getting an invite mentions the wedding and assumes that they would be invited, what do we say? Even though the wedding is just over a year away we're already pretty certain on who will be invited. I would like to handle the situation with as much tact as possible, but also with asertiveness since I am a notorious push over and most people know I can never say no.