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Cousin "invited" her children

Hello,
So my FI and I decided not to invite cousin's children because it would be too expensive. We addressed the invitations appropriately, with only the names of the individuals invited on the physical invitation. I recieved an RSVP from FI's cousin and she RSVPed with all of her children. 3 of them. What's the best way I (or my FI) should go about informing her that her children were not invited?
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Re: Cousin "invited" her children

  • "I'm sorry for any confusion, but the invitation was only intended for you, Cousin, and CousinHusband.  Unfortunately we will not be accommodating children.  I hope you two can still make it."  She'll either say they can or can't make it.  She might also throw a fit - if she does, just respond with "I'm sorry you feel that way.  We'll miss you at the wedding."
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  • Your Fh should call, apologize for the "misunderstanding" (even though you didn't do a thing wrong, at least start that way as a soothing technique) and explain that only adults are invited and he hopes they can still make it.
  • We will have children at the wedding though. However, those children are in our immediate family and involved in the wedding. I don't want to lie and tell her we can't accomodate chaildren...
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_cousin-invited-her-children?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:c8b33484-cd2c-4a28-9cdd-0c23e323e752Post:3a170a99-6b82-4ee7-bbeb-240f02fb6ca0">Re: Cousin "invited" her children</a>:
    [QUOTE]We will have children at the wedding though. However, those children are in our immediate family and involved in the wedding. I don't want to lie and tell her we can't accomodate chaildren...
    Posted by TallyKyle[/QUOTE]

    Is it worse manners for her to invite her kids or for you to say that the children just aren't invited?

    You don't HAVE to lie or make up a story.  The children are just not invited.
  • Yeah, you're allowed to not invite any one you choose not to. Just set her straight, and leave it at that.
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