I'm helping coordinate a friend's wedding in a few weeks. I found out the bride's sister that they are attaching a small note to their candy favors that says something about 'in lieu of thank you's, we will be making a donation to X on behalf of (deceased family members).'
my response was 'do you mean in lieu of favors? because the candy is a favor' and she said 'no, instead of thank yous. because writing thank yous is a pain in the a$$.' before i pick my jaw off the floor she had moved on to talk to someone else at the party.
maybe this makes me petty, but now i don't particularly feel like getting her a nice gift or helping much at her wedding because i won't even get a thank you.
what would you do? say something? do nothing? adjust your gift?