Royal Wedding: I find this interesting

Mrs.B6302007

Diane Sawyer just reported that the Queen had Kate's parents to lunch this week  It was the FIRST time they met.  I find that very odd that the Queen hadn't met the future Queen's parents until a week before the wedding.  Doesn't Wills almost need her approval more so than Chuck's?

lyndausvi

Yes she needs to approve the marriage.  But she only needs to approve Kate not her parents KWIW?

I'm not actually surprised they have not met.  I do not think the Queen socialize with other in-laws' families either.

Calypso1977

probably, but at the same time the queen had already met Kate and approved of her.  also, you know the palace had these people checked out.  any red flags probably would have been discoverd years ago.

barbie92

I am with you Mrs.B..
I would have thought they would have met before now, but I guess when you are royal everything is different.

LisaChris2011

Yes, I agree with PP.  I've read in various mediums that the Queen is so far up the "social class ladder" that no one gets in front of her until its absolutely necessary or obligated to.

xyrius

I did raise an eyebrow, but then I thought about it.

I could count on one hand how many times my grandmother met FI's parents, and vice versa. 

edit: And I understand the fact that she's the *queen*, but I think there would be exceptions for family to be.  One article states that she didn't feel a need to meet them up until now, which makes sense to me.

Mrs.B6302007

I know she only has to approve Kate and that they've been checked out closely by her people.  Just seems that she would at least meet the girls parents before the engagement were to be announced. And no, I wouldn't expect her to socialize with them either.

lyndausvi

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[QUOTE]I did raise an eyebrow, but then I thought about it. I could count on one hand how many times my grandmother met FI's parents, and vice versa. 
Posted by xyrius[/QUOTE]

<div>DH's grandmother has never met my parents.</div><div>
</div><div>My MIL has only met my parents once.   </div><div>
</div><div>If you think about it meeting each other's extended family is not common in some families.   The fact she is the queen must make it even harder.</div>

Mrs.B6302007

I didn't meet Mr B's grandmother until the wedding but 1) she lives in CA and we'rein FL 2) we only had a 4 month engagement so no time to meet and 3) he's not oing to run the country someday  ;-)

mandysmear

my parents only met mike's parents once.  my dad has seen them more..  but not much. 

because it's the queen and stuff, i do find it odd.  wills and kate have been together for like 7 years or something i thought? 

lyndausvi

on another not..

From what I've read about Kate's mom, she must have been eagerly waiting for the invitation to Buckingham Palace. Her social status has gone up 1000%.

lyndausvi

Oh from what I've read Kate has only met her a 1-2 times herself .  This past xmas was the first time she had been invited to the pre-xmas royal family luncheon.   She does not get the Christmas Day invitation until she is actually married.

Spending time with the queen is not like just seeing your normal grandmother. 

LisaChris2011

I don't think the the monarch wields any real power anymore (someone correct me if I'm wrong), but I get what you're saying.  :-)  Its royalty, so you'd think.

Mrs.B6302007

Yeah,  my run the country comment was tongue in cheek.  They're status.

[Deleted User]

That is a bit weird, I really thought they all knew each other since they had been together so long. But then again I haven't been paying much attention to all the hoopla.

My parents only met H's parents once before we were married as well. In fact, the first time they met was the night he proposed.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Yeah, I know Kate and the Queen have met on many occassions.

I wonder how it worked when the Queen's grandson got married 2 (3?) years ago. Her parents lived in Canada.

Also, my parents and my in-laws didn't meet until the day before my wedding!

baystateapple

My parents and my in-laws met about two months before our wedding.

I think I'd never be able to even speak to the queen, I'd be so overwhelmed.  But I guess Kate is probably used to it by now.

mica178

I'll bet both sets of parents met before.  

H's grandmother didn't meet my parents until the RD.  She lives in FL, they live in CA.  My grandmother didnt' meet H's family until the wedding (she did not attend the rehearsal/RD).

skippylouwho

My parents met my MIL and FIL at our wedding and they NEVER wanted to meet them or be around them ever again. I was told to not ever give my in laws my parents phone number or address and my in laws asked me several times. My parents only had to be around my in laws for a couple of hours to know these were not people they ever wanted to be associated with (and they were right in thinking that.)

AbbeyS2011

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[QUOTE]Yeah, I know Kate and the Queen have met on many occassions.<strong> I wonder how it worked when the Queen's grandson got married 2 (3?) years ago. Her parents lived in Canada.</strong> Also, my parents and my in-laws didn't meet until the day before my wedding!
Posted by msmerymac[/QUOTE]

One interesting note about the Queen's grandchildren from Princess Anne - neither of them have titles.  They are not Prince and Princess.  Anne did not want her children titled, but I am not sure if that has any bearing on them being heirs to the throne.  I do know they are far down on the list. 

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Royal Wedding: I find this interesting : One interesting note about the Queen's grandchildren from Princess Anne - neither of them have titles.  They are not Prince and Princess.  Anne did not want her children titled, but I am not sure if that has any bearing on them being heirs to the throne.  I do know they are far down on the list. 
Posted by AbbeyS2011[/QUOTE]

They're only far down because their mother is far down. She's after all 3 of her brother's and her brother's children. Charles's youngest brother, Edward, decided not to style his children prince and princess, either. They're the Lady Louise and Viscount Severen.

Avion22

My parents and his parents haven't met yet.   Ditto grandparents.


But yeah, you probably don't get to meet the queen unless absolutely required.  If could be weird if Will and Kate got married without her parents meeting the Queen, which is why the probalby waited until now. 

redheadfsu

Our parents haven't met either. Hasn't come up yet. We visit them (his parents hate to travel) & they live a few hours apart.

But yeah, the Queen usually doesn't meet people unless she has to.

waltzingmatilda13

I found it odd, too MrsB. I thought for sure they would have met before, but I could see how her schedule wouldn't allow it. It still caught me off-guard when I heard.

JanoBean75

My parents and H's father and step-mother met just a few minutes before our wedding ceremony began.

I thought it was odd when I heard the Queen just met Kate's parents, but I don't know much about what they do over there, so it could be totally normal.

specialk84

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[QUOTE]My parents met my MIL and FIL at our wedding and they NEVER wanted to meet them or be around them ever again. I was told to not ever give my in laws my parents phone number or address and my in laws asked me several times. My parents only had to be around my in laws for a couple of hours to know these were not people they ever wanted to be associated with (and they were right in thinking that.)
Posted by skippylouwho[/QUOTE]

<div>We have a similar situation.  My parents pretty much said they'd call the cops if FMIL ever set foot on their property.</div><div>
</div><div>They've seen each other a few times.  They met at brunch, then saw each other months later when my mom dropped me off after shopping and FMIL was at our house and again at our Fourth of July party, where FMIL spread stupid (and untrue) gossip about my mom, hit on my dad, and stole prescriptions from my mom's purse.</div>

Mrs.B6302007

Dude, your MIL is a piece of work.