Invitation Advice

vinlove77

Hi all, I'm pretty new here but after a bit of lurking there seems to be some great advice.

We are inviting a friend/colleague of mine to the wedding along with her two teenage daughters that I know well. I'm also expecting that she will bring her live-in boyfriend despite the fact that they are on and off practically every week. My question is whether I should invite his two daughters? They are very young and I hardly know them, but I don't want to offend them by only inviting her two children. What's the proper etiquette in this situation? I guess in the long run it doesn't really matter but with our venue size a 6 person invite is no small potatoes!

loop0406

Are you having an adult only wedding?

If so, just address the invite to her and also the rsvp card should only include her name (and her SO if you're okay with him going)....for less confusion you can go the route on rsvp card: "2 seats are reserved in your honor" and then __decline __accept....

* If you plan to invite him too, I think his children if they live with him should be invited, especially if you're allowing hers. If you're doing adults only (18 +) then none of the kids will be invited nor addressed on invite/rsvp card *

vinlove77

We are not having an adults only wedding, so having kids there isn't the issue. Does it make a difference if her children live with her full-time and his part-time? There's really no way to know if he would have his children on our wedding weekend with it being so far out. My gut is telling me just to invite them to avoid hurt feelings!

mgietler76

I don't think you should invite them. If you don't know them, and they seem pretty removed that they probably won't really know anyone but who they came with I wouldn't bother.

MacFreitas7

I wouldn't invite his kids either...

you KNOW her two kids, so that is obviously perfectly acceptable.

"4 seats have been reserved in your honor"
address the envelope in HER and HIS name AND HER TWO DAUGHTERS name... that way there is NO confusion.

OR send the daughters their own invite (just 1 invite for the 2 girls)

deb84

I think differently on this.  I would invite them.  Yes it is two more bodies but they are young children so it's not like they will eat a lot!  And maybe it will end up being the weekend that his kids aren't there or they might get a sitter for the younger kids.  I would invite them to avoid hurting any feelings. 

tamaraandrob

As someone who is part of a 'blended family' I would say invite them. They are living together, so the children are part of her family too (rocky as it may be).

I know in our case it bothers us and hurts our children when someone invites/includes only one persons child and not the other. It makes the child feel like they're less a part of that family.