help me with my thank you cards

shanliann

I suck at writing these. I've been trying for a week and dont have a single one done. I hate everything i come up with to write, it sounds cheesy or not sincere or made up. im stressed because I wanted these in the mail Monday or Tuesday, and here it is friday. I have this for one, it doesn't seem like enough though....

John, Jane and Josh,

Thank you all so very much for the very generous wedding gift, and for being there to celebrate with us! We plan to put the money towards our dishes! It meant so much to us that you could be there to celebrate our day with us, it wouldn’t have been the same without you!

LuckyGirl1713

That is a very sweet note and I think your guests will appreciate the sentiment.  Don't stress to much about it and just write something sweet and kind to eah peson.  And try to do a few cards at a time, don't put cazy pressure on yourself.  Here is something  would write:

Dear John, Jane and Josh,

It was so lovely spending our wedding day with such wonderful people like you and we are so thankful for the generous gift.  We plan on putting the money towards some new dishes that we hope to use when we have you over for dinner sometime.  Thank you again and we hope to see you soon.

OR

Dear John, Jane and Josh,
Thank you so much for the generous gift, but more importantly thank you for attending our wedding.  Our wedding day was everything we dreamed of and one of the reasons it was so special was because we shared it with such wonderful people like you.  Thank you again for helping our wedding day dream come true!

Avion22

Ditto.  Also?  Don't worry about  using the same wording over and over.  They don't have to be 100% unique.  People don't compare thank-you notes.  If you can say something personal in each note (what they got you, next time you plan on seeing them, etc) then people will know you put some time and thought into them.  

hoffse

Yeah I think if you just town down the exclamation points a bit it will come across as being more sincered.  I usually end with one but hardly ever use them in the rest of the TY note.

shanliann

please take no offense to this, but I hate you all because you make this sound so easy!! You just whip out great sounding things in time while i sit here twiddiling my thumbs! 

Ok, so how would you word when only half the couple attended? Like a close friend of ours came from very far away to be there with us, but her husband could not be there because by the time he got done with work, there wasn't a flight that would get him here in time, so id really like to emphasis how much it really meant to me(us) that she was there and mention how we missed him, but all the wording i come up with, to me sounds like he is 2nd rate, like to go on about seeing her and then oh by the way hubby we missed you!

Avion22

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[QUOTE]please take no offense to this, but I hate you all because you make this sound so easy!! You just whip out great sounding things in time while i sit here twiddiling my thumbs!  :) Ok, so how would you word when only half the couple attended? Like a close friend of ours came from very far away to be there with us, but her husband could not be there because by the time he got done with work, there wasn't a flight that would get him here in time, so id really like to emphasis how much it really meant to me(us) that she was there and mention how we missed him, but all the wording i come up with, to me sounds like he is 2nd rate, like to go on about seeing her and then oh by the way hubby we missed you!
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</div><div>I would just say something like, "It meant so much to use that Jane was able to attend, and though we missed John terribly we hope to catch up with him soon!"  or you could use 2nd person, "Jane, it was great to see you.  John, we missed you, but hope to see you soon."</div>

shanliann

i feel like my notes are too much about attending and not enough about gifts. ugh. why am i so picky?!

also....how do i mention something in my cards for people who paid for our "mini moon"
we got married at a hotel and our wedding night room was complimentary but we planned to stay an extra night, for just a little "us" time, well my family (5 cousins, and there families) decided to all chip in and pay for our room for the 2nd night, i am of course already sending them thank you notes for attending and for gifts but i feel it nessicary to thank them for paying for our room as well...

Avion22

You are way over-thinking this.   If you use this formula, you can't go wrong:

1.  Obviously you want to mention the gift.  You might also want to mention what you plan on using it for ("Thank you so much for the waffle-maker! We can't wait to use it for our Sunday morning breakfasts.").   

2. If they gave more than one gift, then thank them for each one ("Also, thanks for contributing to our mini-moon, it was very peaceful and relaxing.").   

3.  If the gift was money, you don't have to say "thanks for the money!", you can be a little more vague ("thanks for the thoughtful gift"), but it's nice to mention (again, vague terms are fine) what you plan to use it for ("It will help us save for a downpayment on a new home." or "We are looking forward to treating ourselves to a romantic dinner.")

4.  Thank them for attending, or express regret that they were unable to join you, as appropriate, and express desire to see them in the future ("We're sorry you were unable to make it to the wedding, but are looking forward to seeing you at Aunt Sue's annual Thanksgiving feast!")

That's all you have to say.