Not sure on a registry request

hockeywithadiamond

Hey, so I am totally against honeymoon registries even though I have friends who have done them with good results.  I just feel wrong about asking people to pay for our honeymoon.

Some of my family and friends have asked if there is a way to buy gift cards for the hotel we will be staying at so we can enjoy meals and spa services while on our honeymoon.  It wouldn't be cash that they're giving us but an actual gift, kind of like a gift card to a store.

I'm inclined to provide them with a link to the hotels website that gives the option to buy giftcards in any amount they wish from $5-$1000, but I'm just not sure still.  I'm really torn on what to do.  They're asking for the option to do this so I'm thinking it's ok to post on the website that option along with the other registries from the big stores.

Advice?

J&K10910

They asked for it, there's no harm in giving them the information on how to do it.  I would not post it anywhere for all the guests, but you can certainly email the link to the people that have asked about it. 

mlg78

Ugh. I don't like this... But I guess what you could do is set up a wedding website...complete with EVERYTHING.  Info on the ceremony, reception, places you HAVE registered, and include info on where you'll be honeymooning but I'd word it as "We're looking forward to our stay at the Marriott in Blah-Blah Island SomewhereintheCarribbean!" and link it there...so if one of your guests feels so compelled to then contact that hotel, it's up to them.

I wouldn't blatantly say, "oh, we're staying here and you can get gift cards right on their website!"

J&K10910

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-sure-on-a-registry-request?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ca442e5b-7d71-4e27-9a49-8cd0c201927dPost:af8f919a-cc8f-402e-82cf-c669989117fb">Re: Not sure on a registry request</a>:
[QUOTE]Ugh. I don't like this... But I guess what you could do is set up a wedding website...complete with EVERYTHING.  Info on the ceremony, reception, places you HAVE registered, and include info on where you'll be honeymooning but I'd word it as "We're looking forward to our stay at the Marriott in Blah-Blah Island SomewhereintheCarribbean!" and link it there...so if one of your guests feels so compelled to then contact that hotel, it's up to them. I wouldn't blatantly say, "oh, we're staying here and you can get gift cards right on their website!"
Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE]

But people are ASKING.  There is a huge difference between just posting it along with the registry info, and giving information to people that have come to her on their own saying "this is what we'd like to do, is it possible?"  If someone said "hey, are you registered anywhere that we can shop online?" you wouldn't deny them the website of the store you're registered at, that would be silly. 

Avion22

If a family member specifically asked, then I think you're fine to tell them you're staying at Such and Such Hotel.  I wouldn't give this information to people who haven't asked though...

hockeywithadiamond

Good ideas  We have a wedding website through the Knot and it has all of the information about the ceremony, reception, local activities, various hotels in the area, and weather info (we're getting married in November in Colorado, it could be 80 and sunny or -20 and snowy).  We put the registry info up the two months before the wedding shower, but took it back down while we evaluate everything on it and this issue.

I'm going to sit and think on this for a while, I have the type of family that gets emotional and dramatic about things like this and I'm trying so hard to keep drama as far away from this wedding as possible

AJuliaNJ

I would send it to those who asked, but would not post it on your site.

J&K10910

Emotional and dramatic about WHAT?

I feel like you're way overthinking this.  Send the hotel info to the people who asked, and that should be the end of it. I can't imagine what there would be to get emotional and dramatic about.

AddieCake

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_not-sure-on-a-registry-request?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:ca442e5b-7d71-4e27-9a49-8cd0c201927dPost:4382b8ec-8502-493f-bec0-5055c6382bf6">Re: Not sure on a registry request</a>:
[QUOTE]Emotional and dramatic about WHAT? I feel like you're way overthinking this.  Send the hotel info to the people who asked, and that should be the end of it. I can't imagine what there would be to get emotional and dramatic about.
Posted by J&K10910[/QUOTE]

<div>Yeah, I don't get that. What's to be emotional and dramatic about? People are asking if they can give you hotel service gift cards. To those people who are asking this, provide them the answer of "Yes" and the information. For everyone else, business as usual as far as the registry goes. </div>

hockeywithadiamond

My cousin did a cash dance at her wedding and a lot of people got angry with her and called it rude.  I e-mailed those who asked the info.  Thanks guys