Have we all forgotten?

mandysmear

I am going to a wedding on saturday!  I am so excited for the couple to be married.  I love them like whoa.  And I think they're so perfect for each other.

And I want cake.

And I want to dance with my husband.  He booked the whole weekend off.  If it weren't for the wedding this weekend I'd see him for abotu 4 hours total.  Yeah to 50+ hours with him!

Rosie109

So how much of a show stealer would it be to announce a divorce at a wedding?

Hmm. maybe a pregnancy.

mandapanda78

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[QUOTE]I would have been PISSED if someone got engaged at my wedding.
Posted by salt78[/QUOTE]

<div>I had a very real fear the my SIL's boyfriend was going to propose at our wedding. He did not. I was relieved, I will not lie.</div>

emilyinchile

For some reason, it came up in conversation before we were engaged that I would never want to get engaged at someone else's wedding. Good thing too because H told me after he eventually proposed that he'd wanted to propose at his friend's wedding 6 days earlier because everything was so romantic - I would have felt like SUCH an asshole.

mandysmear

I don't think I would have liked it if someone got engaged at my wedding.

At my best friend's wedding my H told me (drunkenly), that he felt like he was ready and wanted to marry me.  He didn't propose for another 2 months after.  I get that people get all lovey dovey at weddings.  But, man, to propose!! 

mwhitson14

Sorry, I ran off to M&M to read what was up with MacFreitas comment.

YES. Cracker cuts. I can't remember who makes them, probably Kraft. They're soo good. Expensive but good.

ohwhynot

That's one of those things where, if someone did it at our wedding I would have been thrilled, but I'd never in a million years dream of doing it at someone else's wedding.  

But yeah . . . there were a couple of couples who I thought may have had an announcement to make, and that would have been so sweet & romantic to me.  I would've asked the DJ to play a special song for them or something (whether it was a pregnancy announcement or an engagement).  Alas, it didn't happen. . . probably because they knew that it is really rude & tacky. 

mica178

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have we all forgotten? : I had a very real fear the my SIL's boyfriend was going to propose at our wedding. He did not. I was relieved, I will not lie.
Posted by mandapanda78[/QUOTE]

I'm sort of worried that my sister's BF will propose at our wedding.  That is the kind of stunt both of them would pull because neither can stand to have the spotlight off of them.  I know it's selfish of me to even think this, but, please, pick another day.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]Been engaged since April and through all the stress and attempting to plan I've decided I hate weddings. Well more the wedding industry.  Have we all forgotten that weddings are about getting married? I don't care about your wedding party or bouquet toss. I don't want to have an absurdly overpriced cake, or fancy six layer tri fold invitations that just get thrown away (don't even get me started about programs and menus). Having to spend $100/head on family members that I've never heard about, let alone ever met. I just hate it all. This isn't a family reunion. This isn't a time to flash your money (or your diy skills) or see how many expensive gifts you can get. You're getting married...it's about committing to one another and spending the rest of your lives together.  I want my wedding to be about our love. It's as simple as that.  You can take your etiquette and shove it. (yes, I always right thank-yous because I am truly thankful, and I send baby/wedding/bday gifts or cards because I am happy for and care about those people but the rest is all BS) Okay. I'm done.
Posted by misscarolb[/QUOTE]
::sprays board with bitch-be-gone::

[Deleted User]

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[QUOTE]So how much of a show stealer would it be to announce a divorce at a wedding? Hmm. maybe a pregnancy.
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

ha. my uncle's wife's brother & SIL announced their divorce at my uncle's wedding. not cool.

Birdie1483

I learned the hard way not to break up with a boyfriend the night before a friend's wedding. When he was my date. From out of town. Baaaadddd idea

Four years later I still wince when I think about it.

MacFreitas7

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[QUOTE]"take your etiquette and shove it"  should be the board's new slogan.
Posted by vallyhoo[/QUOTE]

haha I just laughed out loud followed by a "snort" and I'm in a huge meeting with clients...  awesome :)

emilyinchile

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[QUOTE]Ok while I don’t fully get the whole post. But i agree with the take you etiquette and shove it part. A majority of the people who post on this board are rude… someone will ask a question and they will receive 100 responses they just tell them “NO YOU CANT DO THAT” with nothing about how they can change it or make things better. <strong>Also to the supper crazy etiquette  girls</strong> I really hope that you calm down after your wedding or you will be planning another wedding in a few years. Lighten Up and be helpful not rude.  dose any one think they just jump on the band wagon around here.
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]

Dude, I just get hungry and can't wait to get home for dinner, ok?

laurenclaire1386

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[QUOTE]Ok while I don’t fully get the whole post. But i agree with the take you etiquette and shove it part. A majority of the people who post on this board are rude… <strong>someone will ask a question and they will receive 100 responses they just tell them “NO YOU CANT DO THAT” with nothing about how they can change it or make things better. </strong>Also to the supper crazy etiquette  girls I really hope that you calm down after your wedding or you will be planning another wedding in a few years. Lighten Up and be helpful not rude.  dose any one think they just jump on the band wagon around here.
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]
That is patently false. Yeah, people ask about doing rude things all the time, and subsequently get flamed, but very rarely does no one pipe up with an alternative, more polite suggestion.

And STFU about the state of people's marriages. You know nothing about that and it's not your business.

MacFreitas7

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: What's your opinion? : Can you bring that fight in here? For real. Spice things up a bit!
Posted by Rosie109[/QUOTE]

haha. :)  I'll start a new post... and keep it more "broad" then the M&M board ;)

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]Ok while I don’t fully get the whole post. But i agree with the take you etiquette and shove it part. A majority of the people who post on this board are rude… someone will ask a question and they will receive 100 responses they just tell them “NO YOU CANT DO THAT” with nothing about how they can change it or make things better. Also to the supper crazy etiquette  girls I really hope that you calm down after your wedding or<strong> you will be planning another wedding in a few years</strong>. Lighten Up and be helpful not rude.  dose any one think they just jump on the band wagon around here.
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]

ah, yes. following etiquette guidelines is the quickest path to divorce. I think I read that somewhere. I think it was actually on the placemat for the diner/washateria you work in.

AllAboutTheBenjamin

I have read nothing of this thread besides the OP but I just wanted to tell you, misscarolb - if you are this stressed out nearly 11 months til your wedding, you have no idea what you're in for.

You guys should elope.

laladypoet

I feel like this thread has become a human stain contest.

sclams

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[QUOTE]Thanks for the link to her blog....has anyone else read it?  I found it bizarre...I mean, like she's surprised that there are choices in dresses & fabrics & flowers??  In what world is there like only 1 wedding dress you can wear?  Maybe the Amish world??
Posted by jcbsjr[/QUOTE]

yeah, that was weird. I guess I can understand not knowing the names of the different styles, but knowing nothing about fabrics, even common ones like satin and silk? Are you part of some organic-cotton-only commune? Are you stuck in a closet of bad 80s polyester? Do we need to rescue you?

[Deleted User]

Ha, supper crazy. That just makes me hungry. Maybe that's why I'm such a bitch, no one ever feeds me.

ohwhynot

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[QUOTE]I feel like this thread has become a human stain contest.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]

I don't know what that means.  Explain? 

tidetravel

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[QUOTE]Ok while I don’t fully get the whole post. But i agree with the take you etiquette and shove it part. A majority of the people who post on this board are rude… someone will ask a question and they will receive 100 responses they just tell them “NO YOU CANT DO THAT” with nothing about how they can change it or make things better. Also to the supper crazy etiquette  girls I really hope that you calm down after your wedding or you will be planning another wedding in a few years. Lighten Up and be helpful not rude.  <strong>dose any one think they just jump on the band wagon around here.
</strong>Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]

Way to jump on OP's bandwagon there, Brookl.

laurenclaire1386

I think we got it the first time Brook. Thanks, again, though for your completely original and accurate insight.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have we all forgotten? : I don't know what that means.  Explain? 
Posted by ohwhynot[/QUOTE]
between the OP and the one who posted agreeing with her.

ohwhynot

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have we all forgotten? : between the OP and the one who posted agreeing with her.
Posted by laladypoet[/QUOTE]


Hmmm.  Yeah.  Still not getting it.  Never mind - I'm obviously slow and/or missing an obvious reference.  

*slinks out of thread, head low*

laurenclaire1386

Brook, you are SMRT. Brilliant, I tell you.

laladypoet

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have we all forgotten? : hey thanks for the spell check i have only been up for 36 hours. : )  have a good day. and if that was a knock a what i said way to go
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]
no one cares. peace.

missy68

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[QUOTE]Ok while I don’t fully get the whole post. But i agree with the take you etiquette and shove it part. A majority of the people who post on this board are rude… someone will ask a question and they will receive 100 responses they just tell them “NO YOU CANT DO THAT” with nothing about how they can change it or make things better. Also to the supper crazy etiquette  girls I really hope that you calm down after your wedding or you will be planning another wedding in a few years. Lighten Up and be helpful not rude.  dose any one think they just jump on the band wagon around here.
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]


Your first sentence MIGHT have been a good place to stop. And yeah - my anniversary is Sunday.

tpender13

Did you guys notice this part of one of the other blog posts?

will you marry me?

We went to Arizona for a friends wedding, who knew it would be a big weekend for J and I too?! (well actually both of us knew but that's besides the point)

So proposing, and accepting said proposal, was planned??? WTF???

sclams

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[QUOTE]In Response to Re: Have we all forgotten? : Nice way to attack someone actually I am in the army.   If you don’t like what I have to say skip it and move on.
Posted by Brooklclark[/QUOTE]

...which is exactly what you didn't do. Just sayin'