Help! Short on party favors

AW84

I know that grooms don't generally come to forums asking questions like this, but I'm a groom attempting to keep the sanity (and the happiness) of his bride-to-be, so here I am seeking advice.

As the story goes, my fiance ordered and put together enough party favors for 200 guests, as she and I were fairly certain this was on the high end of the number of people that would attend. The bride's mother, however, invited a large number of people on her own that we weren't planning for (another story all in itself)), effectively sending the number of likely guests above 200.

The party favor in question is a box of jelly beans with a homemade sticker with our names, the date, and a little saying on it. Her plan was to place these at each table setting, meaning we'd need one for each guest.

My thinking, from the perspective of a groom, is adult men won't take them, adult women will take them to be nice, and kids will undoubtedly grab them. If they were placed at the door on a table as guests leave, I believe no one would ever know without counting them that we're an estimated 30-40 guests short of having one for every person.

My bride-to-be is stressed to the hilt because a task she had completed is now something she will have to undertake again in a very short period of time before our wedding so she can have one favor per person, and I'm curious to hear opinions on whether, in this situation, you would take on the task of ordering and making more, or just rolling with it as-is?

Simply Fated

You should always make sure there are enough favors for everyone, especially if the kids grab for them. A few times I've tried to walk out without the favor and EVERY time I've had someone usually the MOB or the MOG say to me, "Make sure you don't forget your favor!" I've even had a mother take me to the favor table and hand me one lol. My point is, you don't want a situation where someone wants a favor or is told to take a favor... and there is none left.

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[QUOTE]I know that grooms don't generally come to forums asking questions like this, but I'm a groom attempting to keep the sanity (and the happiness) of his bride-to-be, so here I am seeking advice. As the story goes, my fiance ordered and put together enough party favors for 200 guests, as she and I were fairly certain this was on the high end of the number of people that would attend. <strong>The bride's mother, however, invited a large number of people on her own that we weren't planning for (another story all in itself)), effectively sending the number of likely guests above 200</strong>. The party favor in question is a box of jelly beans with a homemade sticker with our names, the date, and a little saying on it. Her plan was to place these at each table setting, meaning we'd need one for each guest. My thinking, from the perspective of a groom, is adult men won't take them, adult women will take them to be nice, and kids will undoubtedly grab them. If they were placed at the door on a table as guests leave, I believe no one would ever know without counting them that we're an estimated 30-40 guests short of having one for every person. My bride-to-be is stressed to the hilt because a task she had completed is now something she will have to undertake again in a very short period of time before our wedding so she can have one favor per person, and I'm curious to hear opinions on whether, in this situation, you would take on the task of ordering and making more, or just rolling with it as-is?
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</div><div>Why didn't you just say you can't accomodate all those late additions? If your FMIL did this verbally, just have her say she is sorry but she was mistaken. And if she gave out invitations without telling you, that's weird. I mean, I think it is. We have complete control over our guest list. My mom ASKS for people to be added. But. I know who's on the list.

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I would be a little more concerned with having enough seats and food for these extra guests.  

mlg78

Since you're still 70 days out, isn't there enough time to get more of these?  And if needed, make the FMIL pay for them since this is her doing!

I think the second best option is to do it a one-per-couple thing which should save a bundle.  Plus you shouldn't have many, if any at all, RSVPs back yet so you have no idea how many might actually show...although when the time comes you should be prepared for one for everyone if you don't do the one-per-couple thing.

pegasuskat

I have had weddings in recent years for 2 of my kids, at both we had favors in baskets by the door.  We had left overs at both, everybody will not take one, you will be fine.

AddieCake

Can't you just make some more?

LDubHawksFan

You can either make more, or just make one for each couple and put them in a basket at the entrance.  I would be far more concerned about the huge cost of FMIL adding 40 more people.  Is she paying?