Program wording - it's complicated

smile24k

Here is my delima - My FI's parents are divorced. He may or may not want his dad to walk his mom down the aisle. My parents are divorced and deceased. What do I do about the programs where you list the parents of the bride/groom?

His mom still uses married name, but should I list her as *Ms. Smith to reflect divorce? My mom was married, but went back to maiden name, but should I even list her in this section since she is deceased? My other thought was to list my parents in a "in memorium" section.

Thoughts, suggestions???.....

strlzfan11

Are both of your parents deceased?  If so, list them in a "in memorium section" on the back of the program. 

Parents of the Groom
His mom FN LN
His dad FN (and step-mom FN if applicable) LN

OliveOilsMom

FIL is deceased and we did not list him under the Parents section of the program.  We placed his name in the memorium section.

Also, I think you should just ask FMIL how she would like to be escorted down the aisle.  Does she have another son who could escort her.  It may be awkward for both of FI's parents, since they are divorced.

cassiehough24

I would just approach his mom and ask her how she feels and how she would like her name to be stated and if she's comfortable being escorted by her ex. If they are still on decent terms, I'm sure it will be ok. Or maybe if not, they would both be willing to overlook it for a special occasion. It's better to ask and have a bit of awkwardness over the subject then to inform them the way it will be and have everyone else see how awkward it is, the day of. Memorium section is a great way to honour your deceased parents.

tpender13

I would just skip the programs.

map370

I agree with the others. Ask your Fi's mom how she prefers her name be listed. As for you parents, since they unfortunately can't be part of the recession list them as Memorium.

We are probably going to skip programs all together, or maybe just do a chalk board with the wedding party's names.

smile24k

Thanks everyone - I appreciate the suggestions. I will check with my FMIL to see what she prefers. I will include my parents in a memorial section.