really bro?

ridedatbike

Im getting a little frustrated with one of my vendors. My parents have been extremely active in our wedding planning which has been great sometimes and other times just stressful. My dad is the main problem he doesn't quite understand ettiquette apparently and doesn't think I know what im talking about since im 20...turning 21 tomorrow though! He also doesn't get how even though they're helping foot the bill im uncomfortable spending so much money I want to spend as little of their money as possible. Anyway the issue I've brought to the board today is a seating issue. My father and the vendor actually argue with me about wanting to seat everyone! They've even made fun of me about it! We do have quite a large guest list and apparently people here often only attend the reception, go figure, but that's not an excuse to expect people to stand! They actually said that some people will want to stand so I shouldn't provide seats for everyone...seriously bro? I really don't get this logic and im tired of being talked to like a child when im just trying to accommodate my guests.

AddieCake

Nobody will WANT to stand at your ceremony (unless they have some medical reason that makes sitting uncomfortable for long). How ridiculous. You're definitely right; everyone needs a seat. I don't know what kind of vendor would tell you otherwise. 

ridedatbike

Thanks guys im a little late in the process to choose anyone else so Ive pretty much just been standing my ground and I've got my mom backing me up. I just had to get this all off my chest with all this talk bout icky dads lately and this email I ist got from the vendor asking me YET AGAIN how many people I want to seat. Thanks for listening to my vent and thanks for the birthday wish. The relationship with my dad eh its been like this since I hit puberty we pretty much just deal with eachother. I had to move back in after bd bailed and me being a parent has only added to all of the things he can pick at. Were stuck in the same house for only another two months though and hopefully things will get better!

ridedatbike

Haha I keep forgetting to change that its horribly inaccurate were actually getting married this month

Jen4948

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_really-bro?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cadb4fbe-a686-4b0b-a2ad-523a8bc9da34Post:7f423dda-025a-4798-993f-5095155bb804">Re: really bro?</a>:
[QUOTE]In Response to really bro? : It's rude for your father to be making fun of you, and you should really nip that in the bud, but that's your personal battle and another story. However any vendor who mocks his clients' preferences, especially reasonable requests like yours, should be fired. I would not stand for such BS and don't think you should either. Kick him to the curb, write a detailed, honest review and find someone who knows how to function in the service industry. 
Posted by HoorayForSoup[/QUOTE]

Cosigned, Jen4948.

StephJean83

I agree with TXKristan about having the vendor and your dad stand in 3 inch heels for 20 mins. I had a vendor tell me that only about half the guests come to the ceremony, so I should only plan on 150 of the 300 invited to show. I said that of the 300 invites we are mailing 200 of them will be mailed out of state. I had a hotel tell me that they only book 50 rooms for groups over 150 because there is no way anyone could use more than that, even after I told them over 200 people will be invited from out of state. I understand the frustration of vendors being bullheaded! Happy Birthday!

ridedatbike

In Response to Re:really bro?:[QUOTE]I agree with TXKristan about having the vendor and your dad stand in 3 inch heels for 20 mins. I had a vendor tell me that only about half the guests come to the ceremony, so I should only plan on 150 of the 300 invited to show. I said that of the 300 invites we are mailing 200 of them will be mailed out of state. I had a hotel tell me that they only book 50 rooms for groups over 150 because there is no way anyone could use more than that, even after I told them over 200 people will be invited from out of state. I understand the frustration of vendors being bullheaded! Happy Birthday! Posted by StephJean83[/QUOTE]

Thanks for the birthday wishes guys!

OreoZorro11

When my fiancee and I were looking for ceremony sites, we had a bunch of vendors tell us that having only 50 seats out of 100 invited was fine since people like to stand. My fiancee and I both disagreed with this especially since the majority of our guests would be traveling from out of town. We thought it was rude since it's basically telling some guests that they aren't important enough to have a seat (in our opinion at least). I'm not really sure why so many vendors told us that, although they may have just been doing a sales pitch to get us to book with them (which we didn't).