Unrelated Children?

danandmel0723 · June 2012

Hi everyone,

I have hit a '?' in our guest list. We are including first cousins, one of whom is living with a girlfriend. She is obviously invited. She has three children from a previous relationship. We aren't necessarily having a no-children wedding but would it be wrong to not invite them? I'm not sure what's the best thing to do in this situation...probably just invite them, I guess. Opinions?

Thanks!

DreamCLG7 · June 2012

how old are they?

Cuss10 · June 2012

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[QUOTE]Hi everyone, I have hit a '?' in our guest list. We are including first cousins, one of whom is living with a girlfriend. She is obviously invited. She has three children from a previous relationship. We aren't necessarily having a no-children wedding but would it be wrong to not invite them? I'm not sure what's the best thing to do in this situation...probably just invite them, I guess. Opinions? Thanks!
Posted by danandmel0723[/QUOTE]

I am only inviting the children in my family. But you should ask your cousin if they would like it to be a date night, or if they think of him as 'dad' or at least they think of his family as their family. If they think of your family as their family I would invite them. If your family is just 'mom's boyfriends' then you need not invite them.

egm900 · June 2012

I would invite them, mainly because your cousin is living with their mother and you aren't having a completely child-free wedding.

Edit: I don't think you should ask them if they want it to be a date night, if they want it to be a date night they will RSVP for 2 people. I know this way you're going to have to count on 3 extra people, but if someone asked me that, I would assume my kids weren't welcome.