who does it say I have to invite.

medunn

So long story short my cousin has two baby mommas and he is not with eather of them. Now usually this woukld not be an issue but one of them lives with him and my uncle. Is it rude to have two invitations sent to the house but not one for her? My family is a ball of drama when it comes to this girl and I dont want to bring that into the wedding but I dont know what is proper with something like this and what isnt. So do I invite her or is it ok not to?

LeiselEB

Are you inviting your cousin's kid? If so, I would suggest inviting the mom, too (though I don't think it's necessarily an etiquette "rule" to do so). If not, and they're not in a relationship, you're not obligated to invite her.

I would ask your cousin what he is most comfortable with, though.

ericaandtom2012

What Leisel said.  

peekaboo2011

If there are two baby mommas, are there 2 kids?  Are you inviting both kids?

ceceibson

We had a similar situation.  DH's son died in February at age 35.  He had a son, now 2, with a woman to whom he was not married.  At the time of his death, they were not a couple.  DH wanted his gradnson at the wedding, of course.  The rest of the family certainly doesn't care for the mother but she is the mother of our grandson and, so, she was invited.  In fact, I gave her the place I had reserved [and paid for] for DH's son and the grandson.  

Now, in our case, the father was deceased.  In OP's case, it seems she could invite the child without the mother since it sounds like the father would be there.  I guess I would talk to the father and see what his thoughts are.

twotimemob

Ok - this is your COUSIN, right?  If it was your brother, that would be another story.  But being that this is your cousin's family, I think the baby-mama is far enough removed that an invitation would not be necessary.  I would only invite your aunt, uncle and cousin, because they are, after all, your relatives, whereas baby-mama is not.