Invite or Not

allseasonpm

I am up in the air, with pros and cons on both sides. I am having my rehearsal dinner with about 30-40 people who are the closest to my family. My fiance and I are going to have a big reception following the ceremony and we have the financial means to invite between 250-300 people. My fiance always wanted a really big reception and wants to invite pretty much everyone who has had an impact on our lives at some point. 

I have friends whom I haven't really kept in touch with from school. Whom I would like to invite, as I would have like to see them and catch up. But, I don't want them to get the invitation and be like, why did I get this, I haven't seen her in years. Mind you, I would have really been happy to have gotten an invitation to their weddings.
What do you think?

lynds230

If you are getting in touch with them again, I think it's ok even if there has been a lapse, but I tend to agree with other posters about it being weird to invite people you haven't talked to in forever (unless they're really good friends of the family and your parents or his parents are still in touch).

Catwoman708

Only invite them if you are prepared to renew contact with them right now, before the wedding, and continue contact after the wedding. 

If you got an invitation to their wedding out of the blue, would you be thrilled and look forward to going?  Or would you wonder why they sent you an invitation, but didn't bother to keep in touch over the years?  Chances are they feel the same about you and your wedding.

Otherwise, there is no need to invite everyone you've ever been friends with.