Aside from my previous question I have one more. My FI and I between us have ovcer 200 people invited to the wedding. In my family (because we're a very large one) if you are not 18 you are not invited to the wedding. Needless to say my FI and I opted to hire babysitters (at our own cost) to people from out of town. They are all teachers from our daughters school so they have been background checked, certified etc... obviously this is an option to the parents who are more than welcome to find someone of their choosing. My friend of 17 years has a three year old son. We do not want children at the wedding. She is trying to force this situation on us. I have told her in no uncertain terms how we feel. Have offered her the option of the babysitters and still I have a gut feeling that shes going to show up with her son. I do not want to sound mean but he is really not a well behaved child (ie: terror) so if/when she walks in the door with him what the heck am I supposed to do without causing a scene at my wedding?