F/U From my "Friend got this invite" post

btrflykate1230

http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_friend-of-mine-just-got-this-invite

She is "allowed" to go to the ceremony, has to go somewhere else for 5 hours, and then will attend the after party. I am FUMING mad for her. The groom is her husband's friend from college (I know him as well), and they were pretty tight-- I guess not tight enough to attend the reception! Basically, anyone who isn't family was uninvited and will attend the "after party".

It was exactly what we thought. She's going, because it's not worth losing a friendship over (in her opinion) but she's really offended and it's left a bad taste in her mouth.

baystateapple

There is NO way I would attend this.  That's terrible. 

Pirata13

I couldn't attend this either.  Your friend is a better person than I am, because I really wouldn't be concerned with losing this friendship. I might attend the ceremony and give a card, and if the B&G opted out of the friendship because of it, then I'd be ok with it.  If they wanted to remain "friends" and never bring up the potluck debacle or lack of a gift from me, then that'd be fine.

Krysti21

I wouldn't go. She was basically told "you're good enough to give us a gift, but not to actually celebrate with us". Awful.