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lpstl

So over on the bump there's an etiquette question about a baby shower.

Apparently the OP's H asked her friend to host a baby shower for them. Friend hosted it, paid for food/drink/etc, gave away left over food to guests, and wants her H to reimburse her for expenses. OP wants to know what the etiquette is on this. I have no words.

http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/29215293/ShowThread.aspx#29215293

wadingmoose

Heh.  That's just a mess.  They're all freakin' rude.

SwedishChick2011

I don't know if it was correct etiquette for the husband to ask the friend to throw the shower - but, since she agreed, it's definitely really tacky to ask the OP and H to reimburse her.  Plus the friend didn't even let them keep the food.  That's ridic.

squirrly

Wrong + wrong = offer to split the expenses.

FutureMrsTR

I think "giant etiquette snowball fail" sums it up nicely.  It's a shame that the husband asked someone to throw the shower, but really, if she agreed, over-ordered and gave the food away I'd say she's on her own.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

Sounds like the friend is a doormat, which may be why the OP's husband asked her in the first place. And now the friend is trying to stand up for herself (or her husband is making her). Oh well, too late.

mishy112

If you read further, OP says that the friend originally offered to host a shower and OP declined b/c she didn't want to be the center of attention and opening gifts in front of everyone made her uncomfortable. So OP's H later asked the same friend to throw a "non-baby" surprise co-ed celebration. IMO, they should go halfsies.