Friend Invited Me Must I Invite Her?

eelsbury08

A Friend who I am not too close with invited me to her wedding that is in July. I am excited to go and support her marriage. My FH and I got engaged several months after her and her FH and are realizing that we are going to have to cut back in serveral areas to have a nice wedding. I have a huge family and would love all of them to come. We are not getting married until 2014 to save our money up and to plan. Is it rude to be invited to her wedding and not invite her to ours? I keep inviting her out to have coffee to discuss wedding things and have invited her and her FH on a double date and she either declines or doesnt answer at all.

mrskristinyc

It's not rude to not invite her to your wedding. Not everyone has identical budgets/family sizes. Also, keep in mind that you still have quite a while before you have to send out invites. Your relationship with her/other friends might change by then.

It is kind of rude to constantly talk wedding with people you aren't inviting. You can totally still invite her out for coffee/ double dates, but I wouldn't make plans to talk specifically about the wedding. It comes across as "I'm planning this cool party, and I want you to help me, but you can't come."

loca4pook

Honestly..your wedding is a little ways away still, so I wouldn't even worry about it yet. Friendships change so it might not matter at that point...You might be closer to her then, and want her in...You might lose friendship then and it will be a mute point.


Wit that......Don't OFFER an invitation unless you are 100 percent sure she will be invited...If you aren't sure yet, avoid wedding talk completely..I would just say "we don't know details yet  since it is so far off" if she brings it up

Cortney1982

Why would you want to invite her out to coffee and discuss wedding plans if you have no intentions of inviting her to your wedding?  Odd.  You can go to her wedding and not invite her to yours but is two more guests really going to set you back?  Don't talk wedding stuff with her if you don't intend on inviting her, that is rude.

catwine

Honestly, I love talking about my wedding so if my engaged friend called me up adn wanted to chat, I'd go for it.  I certainly wouldnt expect an invite to her wedding unless we were very close.

OwningAHome1981

Similar situation except that I don't like the friend anymore, so I'm not inviting her and that's that.