send thank yous out at the same time?

fergie1566

Is it ok to send out thanks you notes at different times or should they be sent out all at once?

Katelyn89

I prefer to send them all together for the reasons listed by PP

Kate61487

ditto PPs; I sent all mine together, but if you're going to take two months or more to finish them then it's better to at least get some of them out. 

Knittibell

It depends- as gifts come in, and some may come in months before, you should have a list of people and what they sent, and as soon as you open something, send a thank you note.

If you get a ton of gifts and cards AT the wedding, then either is ok- If you spend a weekend writing out cards, I'd send them off. Maybe you need one more weekend, maybe you can get them all done in a week. If we're taking about a week or so, I'd just hang on to them, and send them at the same time. If you're going to write them over a month or two, I'd send them as you write them, and just make a note on your list as each one is completed and sent!

amhill87

I think with mine I will get them done by families and send out all of one family together...then all the friends last...I have 3 families and he has 1. So lots of thank yous

blgrout

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[QUOTE]I think with mine I will get them done by families and send out all of one family together...then all the friends last...I have 3 families and he has 1. So lots of thank yous
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This is what I did.  I finished doing thank you cards in circles (DH's family, my family, friends, etc) and sent out like, 4 batches, but made sure that everyone who runs in the same circles got theirs mailed out at the same time so nobody would talk and think they got left out. 

angryangry

For gifts that came before the wedding, I sent the thank you for each one as the gift came in. 

After the wedding, I sent all of the remaining notes out together at one time. There was at least one 'crossover' person between each of the circles, so it didn't really seem safe to send them out in batches like PP have described (although it did cross my mind). I wrote most of them on a single Saturday afternoon just to get it over with, so none of the notes were sitting around for particularly long. 

jennipea382

I like the idea of "batches". For us it would be kinda easy because although most of our friends are mutual, we could split them into groups because we were in a sorority/fraternity. Then the rest could be "mutual friends". Thanks for that idea (even though I didn't ask the question, hehe).

That said, I agree with PPs. I think it's best to try sending them at once but hopefully they realize there's still time and they'll eventually get their card if you send them out at different times. As long as it's not a HUGE amount of time, I'd say that's fine.