Help! - registry etiquitte

Swimmo

I  know it is considered rude to put your registry on your save-the-dates or in your invites.  My family has followed that rule with recent weddings.  However, my FI's family does not follow that, and he is convinced they won't know where we're registered if we don't put it in our invites.  I have a website and the info is on there, but his fears aren't unfounded - some of them really are too clueless to figure it out.  I don't want the expense of printing seperate invites for our families and I think that would just be silly.  At the same time, I don't want to call his family tacky!  Suggestions???

raes19

If they want to know and can't figure it out, they can always call you and ask.

MyUserName1

I'm sure they aren't too stupid to just ask.

You don't need to do tacky things just because that's what they're used to.

Meg1036

If you have a website, you can put the website information in the invitations.  That might help.

...and are they really too clueless to ask?

annakb8

If people want to know where you are registered they will ask someone. Or Google it. If they can't handle either of those two things I might be tempted to call them other things besides "tacky."

AllAboutTheBenjamin

People will usually ask.  I've also heard about people putting their wedding website info on their invitations somewhere and registry info would be listed there.  And, google is not hard.

FWIW, this is one of those etiquette things I really can't bother to get too upset about.  Our parents paid for our wedding and my mother forced me to put registry info on our invitations because she "didn't want to get hundreds of phone calls" (we invited roughly 500 people to our wedding).  If I see registry info on an invitation, I don't automatically assume "gift grabby."  But that's just me and the social norms I'm accustomed to, I guess.  I don't give ashit.

beckyboo27

I have often wondered what the proper ettiquitte for this situation was.  Every wedding I have been to, there was an insert slipped inside the envelope with the invites for registry info.  Not until a few years ago, did the people I know start putting registry info on their wedding websites. (I live in Western South Dakota, we're a little behind the rest of the country ) 

RaptorSLH

Word of mouth.  Is there an opinionated mother or gossipy aunt who could be enlisted to help spread the word?

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

What's the worst that can happen if they DON'T find your registry? They give you a check? They don't buy you a gift? They buy you something they pick out themselves which they think you'll like? Are any of those things really the end of the world? It's just gifts we're talking about. Something that's unecessary, but an expression of good will. However they respond, I really can't see anyone getting worked up over it. Just leave it out. If they're confused they'll probably call your FMIL anyway.

tpender13

If they can't figure it out by looking at your website, they'll ask someone. It's okay to tell people where you're registered if they ask you. Your family and WP can let people know by word-of-mouth.

sarahlm619

I'm not sure where this goes etiquitte wise, but I printed cute business cards (thank you vistaprint) and said "for hotel information visit our website" -- and listed it -- now on the website, of course, is where we're registered...but this way it's more about the guests and not about the registery.

Swimmo

Thank you everyone!  That just helped me calm down my thoughts and get everything straight