Return Address for Thank You cards

staceyc196

I'm ordering a return address stamp and had planned to have our first names and last name on it. Would it be ok to use this for the return address labels on the thank you cards even though we won't be married yet and it will have my new married last name on them and our new address (we won't be moving there until after the wedding)?

mlg78

Do you mean thank you cards for the SHOWER?  No, don't use your married name.

staceyc196

In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_return-address-for-thank-you-cards?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:cef43d07-c728-45bb-8cef-e2edee653335Post:05266304-621a-461c-afcb-97007fcd8c95">Re: Return Address for Thank You cards</a>:
[QUOTE]Do you mean thank you cards for the SHOWER?  No, don't use your married name.
Posted by mlg78[/QUOTE]

<div>Yes, for the shower. I'm kind of OCD about this becuase my thinking had been that I shouldn't use it until after we are married. I had thought about using only our address and leaving off our names. This way people would have our new address too.</div>

jessicabessica

No, don't use your married name until you are married.  Either get separate return address stamps or only use your address.  It's fine to only have an address and no names on the return address.

And KS got to you first about being "kind of OCD" about this, but seconding what she said.  

Kate61487

why would you put an address where you don't live as your return address?  You understand the function of a return address label, no?  It isn't a way to communicate a future address to your guests, it is for the post office to return undeliverabale mail.

Use your current address and your current name.  If you want to alert your family to your new address AFTER you move there you can do a "we moved!" mailing or include a "we moved!" note in you wedding thank yous; or even include it on the back of your programs.  Now is not the time to communicate it.