I'll sum up some of the issues that I've vented about with her before.
-She took three months to congratulate me (she doesn't dislike me, she's just on her own planet)
-Her response to the invitation sample I sent her? "How will MY name appear on there because some guests might be confused by my current married name?" If they don't know our names, then they should be invited, right?
-The question made more sense when she followed it up by sending me a 200 person guest list for FI's side with a note saying "I know the bride's side usually has more, but don't worry, FI will have plenty of guests." It was a contest? I wasn't aware. Did I mention we were aiming for 150 guests TOTAL. We sent her back the list with a yes, no, and maybe column. Huge waste of time because I doubt she even read it. The no column was huge because there were ridiculous people on it. Like his sisters baby's fathers parents of whom we've met twice and live 9 hours from the venue. She said "It's okay. People just like to be invited and they'll probably send a gift."
-She offered to surprise sing at the wedding "At Last" because it's a sexy song (shudder) She surprise sang at a funeral once and it was just super awkward.
Ok, I haven't even gotten to tonight's vent, but the background info was medium important.
Invitations were sent out two weeks ago. Question #1 in the email I received this evening (I hear from her every couple of months and the emails are always loaded with random shiit. It's fairly entertaining.), "What is the dress code for the wedding? Some of the guys want to wear jeans." Le sigh. I sucked it up and typed back my "proper etiquette" answer. "It's an evening wedding so I'm fairly certain there won't be any other guests in jeans, but I'm not interested in dictating what our guests wear. Please tell them to wear what they are comfortable in." FI told me to tell her Hell NO, but I was being polite to save up for the next question.
It was a barrage of "why didn't you invite this person?" questions. Mostly because FI doesn't like them, he said no, and they are barely related and we drew the line at first cousins. Andplusalso, the guest list has been finalized for MONTHS. And then she said Soandso got their invitations but blahblah didn't. We didn't send an invitation to ANY of these people. I told her Soandso did not receive an invitation and they are not invited. Their step-daughter (FI's cousin who is in her 20's, not a child) did at that address but their names were not on there. There will not be seats for them. FI HATES these people. Hates them. He warned me about sending his cousin's invitation to their house but I didn't have a choice. And now they've attached themselves to her invitation. I don't even know how to handle this. I don't think FMIL will tell them they aren't invited. He hasn't seen them since he was in Middle School.
Believe it or not, I could go on, but I commend you if you've made it this far. Any advice on how to handle the uninvited guests that think they got an invitation even though their names appeared nowhere on it? Oh, all of these people live 13 hours away from us but near the venue and we won't be there for another month.
