My boyfriend and I are planning on getting married by ourselves in northern CA. We want to host a reception when we return at our home. We are having trouble with how to word the invitations. We will have a wedding tent, dance floor, food and drinks. The problem is, we want to have a "party" for our friends with an open bar, but our families would not be up for this. We are paying for it ourselves. Is there a way to word invitations to let guests know that we would prefer the drinking to start AFTER the dinner/family has dwindled? Or is it rude to not have the bar set up until later? Or what if we sent seperate invites to our friends than our family so we could word it how we wanted to each group? For instance, to our family, would it be okay for the invitations to say "yadda yadda....invite you to celebrate our marriage at a reception at our home, 5-7 pm," or something and then on the invitations to our friends write the same thing, but add something like "open bar after 8".... Thanks for any suggestions!
*EDIT
I guess I should have clarified, we are not having a destination wedding, we are just eloping. Plus, we will not be registering anywhere. We don't expect/want gifts. We will be living together soon anyway and already have everything we need.