CO-WORKERS?

futuremrsmurphey

What is proper if you want to invite a few co-workers... do you have to invite them all? I work in a rather small office. There are about 12-15 of us. What do I do. Word willl travel quickly if someone does not get an invite.

help!!!

itzMS

It's a bit of a gray area. Most people feel it's ultimately the easiest to invite none OR all co-workers when you're in a small office/department. You CAN only invite your boss or closest coworkers, but be prepared to deal with some hurt feelings.

Whatever you decide to do, avoid talking "wedding related" things while at work. If someone asks you a question about your wedding/planning process, a vague but sweet answer will do and then change the subject.

bridalmarch

I work at a small baby boutique part time. There are only 8 of us, and I'm only inviting 1 woman and her husband. She's a childhood friend of FI's and got me the job.  The others either won't/can't go to a Saturday ceremony because of religious reasons, or I work opposite schedules and only see them once a month at staff meeting. 

Peledreamsofrain

I agree its mostly an "all or nothing" situation with small offices. I just didnt invite anyone so I could avoid hurt feelings. Also, I don't necessarily want to risk getting tipsy and entering the office rumormill. Too much worry to add to the buffet of worries. Pass.

Wife Kitty

I'm with a couple of the previous posters; I decided not to invite anyone from my office in order to avoid hurt feelings and related drama. Weddings are not work events, and while I'm friends with a few coworkers, I dread the idea of hearing anything like:

1. "Why did you invite so-and-so and you didn't invite me? I thought we were cool."

2. "Oh, great; you invited the boss? Now I can't have any fun. Way to go."

3. "Why did you invite that person? I can't stand them!"

Not to mention the very good point that I wouldn't want to end up being part of the workplace rumor mill after the fact. Nobody should have to worry about being scrutinized at their own wedding reception.

Jen4948

It really depends on the politics of your office. 

If it's a small office, you get along with everyone, and you want to invite co-workers, I'd go ahead and invite everyone and avoid hurt feelings on anyone's part unless there are severe problems with that person (along the lines of really crazy, criminal, etc.), but leaving them out should only be done in extreme situations (say, someone's safety is endangered by their coming). 

If it's a larger office, and you aren't close to everyone (especially your boss), you'll need to be very, very careful and discreet.  I'd send invitations to those you are inviting at their home addresses and not distribute them at work, and I'd also refrain from discussing the wedding, having an office shower/celebration, or anything that could give anyone the idea that they are invited when they are not-especially if you are not inviting your boss.  It may be safer to not invite any co-workers if you do not socialize with them outside of work-related events.

Kath1083

This does not have one right answer.  It depends on the politics of where you work. I have 14 people in my department.  I was not able to invite them all, but decided to invite the ones that have been there for the 7 years that I have been there.  Another co-worker got married last year and had a similiar guest list.