So, I've mentioned before that my FMIL has cancer. She's got stage 2 esophogeal, but she's had Hodgkin's twice since she was twenty-five. Basically she got cancer from the treatments of her other cancer. And because of the scarring of her last radiation, and all the other things, they can't help her. At least, not here. They can keep it from matastasizing, but unless she goes down to the Mayo Clinic (we live up in Alberta, Canada) for a very complicated surgery, she won't make it through this thing.
ANYWAY, I didn't come on here to ramble on about that. Sorry to bring everyone down. My issue today, folks, is that my FMILs friends from the church where FI grew up/his dad's the head pastor/we're having our ceremony are throwing me a shower. I'm very honored, and very grateful. However, FMIL may be down in Scottsdale for surgery at that time, or back recovering and not able to attend either way. I got an email from the hostess saying that my FFIL said to have it "no matter how FMIL is". I don't know whether to be upset or just sad. I don't want to have a shower without her threre. But my mother has already RSVP'd for us both, and I don't want to be rude and decline, but we won't find out if she can make it likely until the last second, so if I do decline because she won't be there, it will be a lot of work put into it for nothing. This may just be a vent; I don't know what I'm asking here. Anyway, thanks for reading.