Wedding Etiquette Forum

BMs asking if shower invites received

Good morning!

My BMs were asking me if people on the shower list had gotten their invites yet (they're throwing the shower, they sent the invites out about a week ago).  I feel kind of awkward asking people if they got theirs yet because I think it might come off as a "Hint, hint, don't forget about my shower" kind of thing.  Is that something I could maybe pawn off on my mom and dad, or should I just let it go entirely and not get involved?  

Thank you!

Re: BMs asking if shower invites received

  • I don't think you have to ask anyone. I'm assuming that they have to RSVP at some point, so you'll find out then. Also, it's likely that people will say something to your or your family about it at some point. If you have a friend that you're close to, you could say "Hey, did you happen to get the invite that so-and-so sent out? She asked me if I knew if people had gotten them" or something. But really, I think that this is being overthought and that it would be silly to contact people to see if they got their invitation. It would be especially silly (and probably look hinty hinty) if you contacted them.
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  • I don't think you need to get involved at all.  If your bridesmaids are anxious about it, they can ask your mom or some of your other friends if they received them, but if they addressed them properly and put postage on them, they should assume they were received.  If someone doesn't RSVP by the deadline, the bridesmaids can follow up then.  
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