My FI's father has been anything but helpful in our wedding, no help financially or mentally. My father went with my FI to get his suit and my parents have helped to get him what he needs, cuff links, shoes, etc. So our wedding shower was last weekend and he didn't come, ok I can push that off as he is old school and those things werent originally for men, even though my father was going. He did not have the courtesy to even call my mother and say he wouldn't go. Anyways our RSVP date was last Saturday. We haven't heard from him yet. My FI has called him and he says he is getting around to it. WTF does that mean? BTW his daughter my FSIL was one of my bridesmaids who bailed on me and bought a dress but decided she didn't want to be a bridesmaid, I guess, she hasn't talked to me about anything. I am just beyond annoyed, I mean it's his son's wedding and we are trying hard to include him because it's what you do, but he just wants us miserable it seems.
My FI is little help because it's his father. I don't want to push my FI away and I understand I'm marrying his family as much as I'm marrying him but his mother isn't in the picture and hasn't been and his dad really seems like he'd rather be out of the picture as well. What am I to do?