Shower/Wedding Invite question

SCBojangles1138

Hey ladies, I could use some guidance on some invitation ettiquette.

I'm getting married in May and I have just started grad school. I'm inviting the 4 folks in my office and two girls in the office next door to the wedding. I haven't invited the third girl, "C," from next door because I'm not that close to her. Nothing against her, just not close to her.

Now one of the girls at work wants to throw me a shower. She said I can invite whoever I want from the office(s). Since its a work event, I feel like C ought to be invited to the shower, however I hadn't intended on inviting her to the wedding. I feel like it'd be mean to leave her out. I wouldn't worry about it if coworker hadn't asked me for a list of people to invite.

So do I leave her totally out of both events, just have her invited to the shower, or invite her to both the wedding and the shower?

mica178

Work events are usually exempt from the rule that guests need to be invited to the wedding.  However, if she'd be the only person at your work shower not invited to the wedding, I probably wouldn't invite her to the shower either.

Mrs.B6302007

Work showers are an exception to the "everyone must be invited" rule.

ETA: If she's the ONLY of them not invited to the wedding, then she probably shouldn't be included at the shower though.  It's kind of a sticky spot.

hlq2011

Ditto PPs.  If there are others at work that you'd invite to the shower but not the wedding, then invite her.  Otherwise, no.

SCBojangles1138

Then that's what I'll do! Thanks ladies.