It goes both ways....

Abs211981

Let me start off by saying that I know BM's are not required to do anything but show up the day of.  However, has anyone else ever gotten their feelings a bit hurt when friends who you've done so much for (tons of $$ on gifts, the ugly BM dress and shoes they picked out, throwing showers, etc) seem to not care less when it's your turn?

I know nothing is required, but I guess I always thought the favor/thoughts would be returned by my friends when it came my turn.....

[Deleted User]

I know how you feel, but unfortunately that is just life. Sometimes weddings bring out who your true friends are if you didn't know already.

squirrly

I know how you feel.  When I got engaged and was planning a wedding, a good chunk of my girlfriends were having their first baby.  Babies are exciting and weddings are old news - didn't you know?  At least, that's the treatment I got.  Not quite the same as what you're talking about, but enough I can sympathize. 

TheCranberry

Yeah, I know what you mean.  I would go so far as to say that your BM's ARE required to show an interest in your wedding just as they should in other aspects of your life.  You'd be disappointed if you got a great new job and your friends just said "Oh okay, did you see last night's episode of Mad Men?" 

MissIntentional

yea, it does suck. the ones you least expect will be the most excited.

squirrly i feel you on the baby thing. my brother's wife was just "too pregnant" to attend my wedding.

Abs211981

good to know i'm not the only one.  i'm by no means trying throw a pity party, but people i always thought were friends haven't really been there. at all.

bellaxanthe

You know, you might want to give it time. I was actually pretty surprised by who stepped up right away, who dropped the ball and was all talk and who eventually got very excited about the plans.  I'm in a predicament where my entire BP is out of town and his whole family is here. So they stepped up to throw a shower because my group just wasn't going to. At some point, it got  in their heads that they would miss it and are now planning a fast and furious shower in my hometown. I'm surprised to say the least. Just hang in there. I won't be having a bachelorette because the one who offered to do it, well she disappeared. It's all good though.

Xtine22

Thanks for this pos OP! I am feeling like this today. We are OOT and all my BMs/family ect live where we are getting married. I feel my coworkers who are not invited/coming to the wedding since it is 1300 miles away are more excited for us then our friends who are actually in/ coming to the wedding. Even though I didnt write this post thanks ladies.