Getting Married Sept 11??

cat1121

I have always dreamed of getting married at the mountain resort I grew up spending time around as a kid.
The only date they have this fall is Sep 11, or Nov, which isn't quite cold and snowy and not quite fall. (you can only get married at this spot Sep-May.)
Does it seem horribly crass to get married on that day? We live on the west coast, and while we were all deeply impacted like all Americans, it's not quite the same as if we were New Yorkers.

JessAndTrav

The new rule of thumb for this topic is as long as you, your family or anyone invited wasn't directly affected by this, then you should do what you want.

However, if you, your family, friends and/or guests were affected directly, then I'd skip it.

laurenclaire1386

People don't bat an eye at getting married on December 7, Pearl Harbor day. I realize it was a huge tragedy for the nation and many people individually, but life can't stop on September 11 for the rest of eternity.

pumpkinpumpkin

I agree with both responses thus far. Use your own caution...do what feels right.

WildRumpus

What PP's said...while it was an absolutely horrible tragedy, life has to go on eventually.

pandasquishy

I think it's too early.  And if you're questioning it, it probably means a little part of you is not okay with it.

ootmother2

I wouldn't but I was closely involved.

Your question seems that you are uncertain so I think you do have reservations here.
If you're in doubt, don't

LauraT25

I don't think questioning it means that the OP is uncomfortable doing it, just that she's not sure if it's a faux pas or that her guests may be upset.  I agree with others that have said that if you and your guests were not directly affected, it's fine.  If you're not sure, maybe talk to your family and make sure you're not forgetting about some guests that may be offended.  Personally, I don't think it's too soon.  It was a horrible tragedy but it was 9 years ago, the only reason this is an issue for people who were't directly affected is that the date has been immemorialized, unlike similar terrible events.

Khitkhat

I'm getting married Sept. 11 as well.... we had to choose that day because of my dad's holiday time from work. I had some people kind of get upset about it, but my take on it is.... yeah, it was a bad day, a lot of bad stuff happened, but life goes on and let's make something positive out of it.... and eveybody loves my attitude on it, and i even have family friends in the forces

Lyss5782

I think it would strike me as odd if I were invited, but I wouldnt disown you as a friend or anything.  Personally though, I couldn't do it.