I've been lurking here for quite a while and thus am aware of the attitude toward having a JoP ceremony and then planning for another wedding ceremony and reception (it's not kosher, etc.). One of the posts below got me wondering if there's anything that may change the groups' thinking. I have a slight particularity and am wondering, from a guests point of view, what opinions would be. My particularity is that I will be having a same-sex ceremony. Our marriage is not legally recognized in most states - thus, we can't get legally married in most states. Our plan: to have a JoP legal thing in Massachusetts on a Thursday (legal in MA only, not the state in which the wedding is planned), and a dear friend (not legal) performing our ceremony the following Friday with a reception after. Given the legal status (and lack thereof) of our relationship, the ceremony in front of friends, by a friends, means more to us anyhow which is why we're considering that the wedding.
(It seems to me that everyone considers the legal ceremony to be the wedding ceremony. However, if you can't get legally wedded in the state you're living in, does that change the general attitude toward this issue - from a guest perspective?)
I'm just curious if this changes the overall attitude toward the issue of 'two ceremonies'. Thanks!