Do I have to invite?

ekimberl

We sent a Save The Date to a couple -- addressing it to Jane Doe and John Smith, rather than Jane Doe and guest.  They recently broke up.... do we have to invite both since the STD went to both, or just the one that we intended to invite?

On a related note, should invitations be sent to friends and family and guests, or should I include the guest's names?  I wanted to be nice and include names, but have two situations now where serious relationships have broken up...

Thanks!

danieliza1127

For the first question - just address the invite to her only or her and guest.  You don't have to invite the guy if you weren't friends independantly of his relationship with her.

As far as the rest of your invitations, if you know the person's name, you should always use it.  People do get offended by being called "and Guest" when they know good and well that you know who they are.

mags0607

I actually am dealing with a similar situation. We have a friend who was dating a guy for over two years. We have met him a couple times, so I put his name on the STD with hers to be polite.

Now that they have broken up, I am going to invite just her, and invite her "and guest." This is mostly because I would have no clue how to even go about finding his information, and since he was being invited because of her, I wouldn't want him there and have it potentially upset her. That, and the fact that I don't really know the guy, so I don't think there will be any hard feelings.

I would still address the other people's guests by name to be courteous, and just let them handle the situation if they break up. Hopefully you won't have any more situations like ths.