Just curious...who is walking you down the aisle or walked you down the aisle?

Adi1076

This question was posed on the Oct 2010 board and there were so many different answers.  My situation is a little different but it hopefully will work out.  My Dad is not physically able so my fantastic Uncle will be walking me down the aisle.  The plan as it stands now is that my Dad will be standing up at the front of the church and my Uncle will do a sort of "hand-off" to Pops.  In my mind it doesn't look too odd but we will see.  I would have my Mom walk me down but she will be bawling and I want her to have the "mother of the bride" experience.  What about you girls?

katherineUTC

I dont think there is anything wrong or odd about what you are doing mainly because there are NO rules you have to follow when creating a gameplan for your ceremony. With ours, my mother-in-law wanted to be escorted down the aisle by my now-husband instead of her husband (my father in law). I kept thinking, that's weird, I've never seen that, my father-in-law is supposed to do that, but then I realized, it's my wedding and I'll do what I want with it ("it's my party and I'll cry if I want to, cryyyyy if I want to..." ). So I had DH escort her down and then go straight to the front to stand next to the preacher, then my brother escorted my mom... oh and I also had my great aunt who is in her late eighties escorted down the aisle as if she were a grandmother, because we are very close and my grandmother was not physically able to make it to the wedding. So our ceremony had a few things that were not "standard" but it was lovely, as yours will be. Just make it your own.

Oh I never answered your question, my father walked me down.

hlumbf2010

My Brother in Law will be walking me down the aisle. My father passed when I was very young and ever since my BIL has been in my life he has been more like a father to me. I actually lived with him and my sister for 3 years when I was finishing college. It just seemed fitting.
My mom walked my sister down the aisle when she got married but, I don't have a great relationship with my mother and I wanted to be happy walking down the aisle. How do I let her know that she will not be walking me down? My sister seems to think that she will.

Adi1076

Katherine, you are 100% right !! It is our wedding and we can do it pretty much however we think is right!

And Heather, that is tricky.  I was very much dreading talking to my Dad about the "walking down the aisle" scenario.  Luckily it came up in casual conversation.  My Pops is morbidly obese and really has A LOT of trouble moving around.  I asked him if he thought that he would physically be able to do it and he kinda got quiet.  I immediately offered the Uncle hand-off scenario and he seemed VERY relieved that I had a plan B.  Maybe you could have a conversation with your Mom about the wedding and you could start out by saying how excited you are that "brother-in-law's name" said that he would walk you down the aisle.  That way she would know how happy you are with the decision and hopefully she would not make a fuss about her not doing it???  I wish you luck with that!!!

Butter Cookie

Truthfully I wish FI and I could walk down together, but I have WELCOME stamped on my forehead, and know that my Dad wants to walk me. I feel like he hasn't really earned the right, frankly. He didn't have much of a hand in raising me, and never gave me any idea how a man should treat a woman.

My Mom raised me, she was both Mom and Dad, and I'd love to have her walk me but she'll be a bawling fool and wouldn't want to (shy) anyway, so my first choice would be FI. He's my best friend. We'd help eachother through it.

So, it'll be Dad. He wants to, and I just don't have it in me to break his heart. I think I'll draw the line at a father/daughter dance though.

clschnack

I completely agree with Katherine.  Do exaclty what you want to do and what will make you feel the most comfortable. 

I had both my parents walk me down the aisle.  This was not due to religious reasons at all- just the simple fact that they both supported/ raised me etc. etc. and I felt that it wouldn't be right to leave my mom out of it.  I had a few people raise an eyebrow about, but I am so glad that they both were standing up there with me

tarheels1

Agree w/ PP.  Whatever you want to have on your wedding day will be fine.  My dad passed away a few years ago and I had my grandfather walk me down the aisle.  However, when we got to the part about 'who gives this woman' in the ceremony, my mom stood up and said 'her sisters and I do'.  That way, she still got to be a apart of it but didn't have to walk me down the aisle (she, too, would've been a bawling mess and wanted to enjoy her MOB role). 

My sister, on the other hand, felt very strongly about walking herself down the aisle when she got married, so I think it's just whatever your preference is.  It sounds like you've come up with a good solution, so I'd go with it!

midnite007x

katherine...my sister had a same weirdo circumstance...she ended up short one bridesmaid so her MIL assumed that one of her son's friends would just escort her up and down the aisle...my sister wasn't liking this idea b/c the groomsman were coming in from the side with the groom and minister, they weren't even coming up the aisle. well the mom weaseled it all in there somehow anyways and my sister wasn't happy but decided it wasn't worth arguing about.

i am leaving this for a last minute conversation.....adi, i am in the same boat as you but right now my dad's health is up and down one day to the next....some days he is up and around and others he isn't. i guess it sorta depends how he feels day of and night before. only thing is that he is hard headed so even if he truly isn't feeling up to it....he will try his hardest to make everyone think he is. i don't know what to do b/c i don't want him to hurt himself.

GirlieGirl27320

I agree with PP.  It's your wedding, so it's all up to how you want things.  I'm hoping my dad will walk me down the aisle.  He can be kind of stubborn sometimes, and he doesn't like to be put on the spot, so I'm sorta nervous about the whole thing.  But as far as your situation, I think it's fine!

jrsturde

Totally late to this as usual but...I think that you can do whatever way you want with your wedding.

I had my mom and dad both walk me down the aisle and I'm really glad I did.

kerinj

Hi, 

I'm extremely late but I am going to have my oldest brother walk me down the isle because has been a constant father figure for me.  My mom and dad separated when I was about 3 years old.  So when I was 5 I got a stepmom and when I was 7 I got a stepdad, so I have two sets of parents! If I had to choose a father figure that has been there since I was born and forward it would be my brother and I wouldn't change my mind for the world!  My second choice would be my mom.  

I believe that your decision sounds great, your father will get a chance to not only experience the joy of seeing you come down the isle, he will also be able to support you right at the moment you see your husband!