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Rehearsal Dinner

Ok I need some advice. My aunt (who is also my godmother and like another mom to me) has been very involved with my wedding planning from the save-the-dates, my wedding dress, decorations and soon to be invitations (getting married 11/5/11). She is not in the wedding or doing any readings, but I want her at the rehearsal and rehearsal dinner. I'd feel awful if she wasn't there, but I also don't want her to feel weird if she's just standign around (though I don't think that'd be the case). Just to have an excuse to have her there I was going to pretend she could help seat people or something. Please help! Thank you!!

Re: Rehearsal Dinner

  • She can just sit and watch the rehearsal, and she doesn't have to seat people at the dinner - she can just be a guest at the dinner. It isn't uncommon for, say spouses of the wedding party to be sitting watching the rehearsal, especially if the dinner is directly after the rehearsal.
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  • I am sure she will be delighted to attend the RD.

    We invited several people who were special to us but were not really involved in our ceremony in any way to the RD.
  • I don't think it's necessary to come up with a job for her.  Just talk to her: "Aunt, you've been amazing throughout the entire planning process and I want you to know that FI and I really appreciate everything you've done for us. We'd love for you to be present at the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, or just the dinner if you prefer."

    Also, if you're doing bridal party or parent gifts at the RD, I think I would include a small one for her as a thanks for all of her love and support.
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  • Don't come up with a job; just invite her to the rehearsal and dinner as a guest. 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-38?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d29b8219-9b4a-410a-ba97-c455e9b1a7c2Post:3817d482-55ea-4e11-8491-8f75f81aa89e">Re: Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think it's necessary to come up with a job for her.  Just talk to her: "Aunt, you've been amazing throughout the entire planning process and I want you to know that FI and I really appreciate everything you've done for us. We'd love for you to be present at the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, or just the dinner if you prefer." Also, if you're doing bridal party or parent gifts at the RD, I think I would include a small one for her as a thanks for all of her love and support.
    Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

    This.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_rehearsal-dinner-38?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d29b8219-9b4a-410a-ba97-c455e9b1a7c2Post:3817d482-55ea-4e11-8491-8f75f81aa89e">Re: Rehearsal Dinner</a>:
    [QUOTE]I don't think it's necessary to come up with a job for her.  Just talk to her: "Aunt, you've been amazing throughout the entire planning process and I want you to know that FI and I really appreciate everything you've done for us. We'd love for you to be present at the rehearsal and the rehearsal dinner, or just the dinner if you prefer." Also, if you're doing bridal party or parent gifts at the RD, I think I would include a small one for her as a thanks for all of her love and support.
    Posted by Celles[/QUOTE]

    <div>Ditto.</div>
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