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GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky?

Hi ladies,

Another question for you. FI's four GMs are flying in from out of state for the wedding (we're paying for one to fly in ourselves, since he wouldn't have been able to make it othewise) and their paying for thier attire rentals for the day, which is just under $100, but includes everything they'll need for they day, except for undergarments of course. I'm sure that between the costs of travel and the suit rentals, they probably don't have a whole lot of money to spare for a bachelor party or anything of the sort (not that FI is expecting one, but I know he'd appreciate it, you know?) and the topic hasn't been brought up yet by his GMs, probably for that reason. I recently found out that my BMs are hosting a little bachelorette outing for me next weekend, and he was happy for me because I wasn't expecting one, but I know is probably feeling a little down that he may not get to have a similar experience with his guys at this point. My question is, would it be tacky if he just took them all out to a nice dinner or something (and maybe a few drinks), as kind of like a catch up / bachelor / GM outing as more of a "thank you for coming" instead of a typical bacehlor party? We're a bit ahead of our budget at this point, so we could afford to pay for it ourselves. Most importantly, FI would get to have an outing with them to catch up and have a little bit of fun. He hasn't seen most of them for quite some time, and hasn't seen the Best Man since high school. I think that something like that would make FI really happy, especially since we've barely been able to go out at all for the past year, while planning and paying for the wedding ourselves. What do you think?

Thank you!
So happy to be married to my best friend.

Re: GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky?

  • Why doesn't he just have a guys night without the "Bachelor party" label? No reason why he can't treat for that :)
  • FYI: They all are due to arrive a few days before the weddng, so this would mostly likely happen the Friday night before our Sunday wedding in June. I haven't mentioned anything to FI yet. I wanted to get your thoughts first. Thank you!
    So happy to be married to my best friend.
  • mica178mica178 member
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    I think it's totally fine.  A lot of brides will host a bridesmaids' luncheon or tea, why can't grooms do something similar. 

    (It'd only be tacky if your FI organized it and asked them to pay for it, but if he hosts, it's great.)
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gm-bachelor-dinner-hosted-fi-would-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d341ca88-9718-4cde-8017-39a347e5e5f3Post:5bee9e6a-5596-4b61-a035-be29af368d54">Re: GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky?</a>:
    [QUOTE]Why doesn't he just have a guys night without the "Bachelor party" label? No reason why he can't treat for that :)
    Posted by Ghoti[/QUOTE]

    That's what I was thinking... It doens't have to have to have the "Bachelor" label at all. Just a guy's night out. That would work, right?
    So happy to be married to my best friend.
  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gm-bachelor-dinner-hosted-fi-would-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d341ca88-9718-4cde-8017-39a347e5e5f3Post:2e40c0e2-73ec-43b5-b0c1-a423cfa25131">Re: GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky?</a>:
    [QUOTE]I think it's totally fine.  A lot of brides will host a bridesmaids' luncheon or tea, why can't grooms do something similar.  (It'd only be tacky if your FI organized it and asked them to pay for it, but if he hosts, it's great.)
    Posted by mica178[/QUOTE]

    Sorry mica - I think there was a delay in my last couple posts. Thank you for your input! I feel good about it now. We we'll just call it a guy's night out.
    So happy to be married to my best friend.
  • This is what FI will be doing but just calling it a guy's night, no need for a label :)
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  • edited May 2011
    I think it's a wonderful idea, without the label. I hope they have fun! [: 

    EDIT: And who knows, maybe if he schedules it/plans to host it ... they may buy him drinks or something 
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  • In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_gm-bachelor-dinner-hosted-fi-would-tacky?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d341ca88-9718-4cde-8017-39a347e5e5f3Post:f7125447-72a4-4f76-b7ba-8ae2a645ad04">Re: GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky?</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: GM (Bachelor?) dinner, hosted by FI... would it be tacky? : That's what I was thinking... It doens't have to have to have the "Bachelor" label at all. Just a guy's night out. That would work, right?
    Posted by cndycne2005[/QUOTE]

    Yes, exactly. It's just him taking the guys out and treating them since they're coming so far to be there for him for the wedding.
  • I think that's a really nice idea and not tacky in any way for him to treat his good friends to a night out. I just wouldn't call it anything.
  • Awesome! Thanks ladies!
    So happy to be married to my best friend.
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