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Re: xxx

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    Nope, you should never expect gifts from anyone. Just because you could spend that for their wedding doesn't mean that can or should for yours.
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:16458a3a-e808-4efe-aaca-fd6d86039b01">Paybacks</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok I was in about 5 weddings recently where each cost me 5001000 with dress, gifts, hair, bachelorette, some destination. Now it's my wedding but I'm not having bridesmaids as its super small. Since I spent that much on them should I except a gift for that much in return? I'm also not having a bachelorette party.
    Posted by Aliciap41[/QUOTE]

    Really?  Weddings are not tit for tat.  You should never expect gifts.  Ever.  And if they do give you a gift they should not feel pressured into giving you a gift worth the same amount as you voluntarily spent on being a BM in their weddings.

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    I couldn't..I charged it all because I felt bad saying no :/ oh well you live and learn
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    You can't be serious. Who even thinks of this? You shouldn't have accepted last time or overextended yourself. That is your own damn fault. 
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    please tell m this is a joke.






    What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
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    No. Just no. 
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:16458a3a-e808-4efe-aaca-fd6d86039b01">Paybacks</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ok I was in about 5 weddings recently where each cost me 5001000 with dress, gifts, hair, bachelorette, some destination. Now it's my wedding but I'm not having bridesmaids as its super small. Since I spent that much on them should I except a gift for that much in return? I'm also not having a bachelorette party.
    Posted by Aliciap41[/QUOTE]
    What? No. Maybe if they were your bridesmaids you might assume they'll spend that much on the same things they spent on you... but you aren't even inviting them to your wedding, according to your other posts.
    And it's never tit for tat. It's true, you live and learn.
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    Changing the title of your post to "xxx" and deleting it only calls attention to it. 
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:1eff7348-8f14-4f9d-8440-7bcfc05b85eb">Re: xxx</a>:
    [QUOTE]Changing the title of your post to "xxx" and deleting it only calls attention to it. 
    Posted by AddieL73[/QUOTE]

    This and you have been quoted so people can still see what you wrote.

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:ff9dc776-34c1-4ff4-ad38-e6bef74b3a86">Re:xxx</a>:
    [QUOTE]You know, if you're going to make xxx your title I better get some dang porn.
    Posted by Harry87[/QUOTE]

    <div>That was my thought too. What a disappointment. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:2ba18f5e-9610-4518-be0e-c180a0f0c232">Re:xxx</a>:
    [QUOTE]Of course! In fact, send them an invoice so each of them know EXACTLY how much to include in your wedding card! In other news, I have my FFF figured out quite early this week.
    Posted by BartenderBW[/QUOTE]

    <div>Hahaha!  I was thinking that over on WP a minute ago.   It's been a crazy TK Monday. </div>
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:478e9f51-3d5a-4f4a-bf61-76a5659baa2f">Re:xxx</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:xxx: Link please, my dear??
    Posted by BartenderBW[/QUOTE]

    <div>I can't seem to link from my phone right now. They are easy to spot. One is now titled "Deleted" and the other is "Won't Be Posting on The Knot Anymore."  </div>
    What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14
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    Soooo, in normal everyday life, do you always seek reciprocation for all deeds that you do? If so, I feel sorry for your FI. Mostly because you're a tease--your amended post title is false advertising, yo!

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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_paybacks?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:d3658611-2025-4005-9cae-54edce607c75Post:e5b93725-8416-4ca1-8958-cf30392fce10">Re:xxx</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re:xxx:In Response to Re:xxx:In Response to Re:xxx: Link please, my dear??Posted by BartenderBWI can't seem to link from my phone right now. They are easy to spot. One is now titled "Deleted" and the other is "Won't Be Posting on The Knot Anymore." nbsp; Posted by AddieL73 <strong>I think it should be a new rule that whomever responds to a post first should quote the OP</strong>. I am sick of trying to deduce what was said originally by piecing together the reactions. That said, my new favorite quote is "mod, please delete this thread"
    Posted by BartenderBW[/QUOTE]

    Especially the BSC questions since they always turn bad and are most likely to DD. What I don't get is why people continue to DD after they've been quoted, or change the title. Le sigh. Common sense isn't so common.
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    I clicked on this hoping to see some peen. Dang.
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    I think this woman might be my FSIL.  When she got married two months ago, she literally told me she wanted her friends to spend lots of money on her shower and give her nice presents because she spent so much on their weddings.  When her BMs didn't seem to be stepping up to the plate, she complained to me and I told her they weren't required to do anything.  She said "I only do things for people expecting them to do for me.  If I treat someone nicely, I expect them to do the same for me."  Ummmmmmm those are my in laws

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