Am I in the wrong? - NWR

whitelilies86

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georgia_bride09

I would still go, since it seems like he's not in the hospital for something serious.

laurenclaire1386

I'd still go on the trip too. I don't think you're wrong.

alixzafiris

I'd go too.

tidetravel

I don't know that you're "wrong" per se, but I wouldn't go.  If he's being started on a medication that requires him to be in the HOSPITAL to be monitored, then there is a very real possibility that something COULD go wrong.  And I wouldn't want to be 3 hours away if it did.

lyndausvi

I would still go.

angiebear11

Given the circumstances, no, I do not think you are in the wrong. I would do the same thing.

ac_in_dc

Yeah, I'd still go. Maybe just visit him Thursday night or something and give him a call over the weekend to see how he's doing.

kikibaby

I'd still go. 

britne28

I would go.  Does your dad mind?  Because I would think he'd be the only one to have a say. But you could pack up and come back home.  Besides, they are monitoring him so the chances of anything happening where you couldn't get back are very slim.

TurtlesAllTheWayDown

I'd go on the trip. Then again, I live 2600 miles away from my dad. So if something ever went "Wrong" I'd be a while getting there anyway. And honestly, there's little you can do or need to do if he were, heaven forbid, in a coma or something.

sarah0725

I'd go on the trip, but then, I wasn't around when my dad had knee surgery... I think I was away at school. We do things differently in my family.

mocha beans

I'd go too.  In my family, we aren't the stick around at the hospital 24/7 until the person is discharged family.  We check in on the phone, works pretty well.  He's not having major surgery, and if something does go wrong he's in the best place he can be to deal with it.  I would get the facts on what the prescription is and why he's staying, but I wouldn't be worried.

tenofcups4me

I wouldn't go. If it's something so serious that he needs to be monitored in the hospital, it sounds like there's a chance something could go wrong.

Besides that, being in the hospital is just dreadful...both for the person who's in the hospital and anyone waiting around with them. I'd go to the hospital so I could keep my dad company and also provide relief for anyone else who's waiting there with him (like your mom or whoever else it might be).

If you were planning something that couldn't fairly easily be rescheduled (like 2 weeks in Europe), I might feel differently. But you're just going snowmobiling and driving there. There's still time to do that some other weekend.

SarahPLiz

Even if something did go wrong, there is nothing you can do about it by being there. If you can be home in 3.5 hours, then that's close enough to get home in case you need to say goodbye (heaven forbid).

FWIW, I am dealing with the same thing with my uncle right now. HIs whole family is at his bedside actually waiting for him to die. I live 3 hours away, and I feel guilty that I am not there, but he wouldn't know the difference at this point. It would only be to make myself feel better.

MyNameIsNot

I wouldn't go.  I have to agree w/PP that if it is important enough for him to be in the hospital, it would be important enough that I'd postpone the trip.  No, you can't do anything if something went wrong, but you'd never forgive yourself if something did and you couldn't get back in time. 

Also, speaking from personal experience, there's no way I could focus on anything else if I knew my dad was in the hospital.  My dad had cancer and had to have surgery two weeks before I had to take the bar.  He was there for a week in post-op and recovery, and I was there studying every day.  I couldn't focus while I was at home thinking about him, even though everyone knew everything was fine.

amysmomma

Personally I would go.  I agree with the PP's that suggested that you visit with him the Thursday before.  If you're unsure, talk to him about it and see how he feels.  From what you said about the last time he was in the hospital, I really doubt that he would want you to postpone your trip just to spend time in the hospital.